My parents were basically great to me when I was a kid but in high school they started harassing me for things like staying out late, drinking, and smoking (which I gave up and now run almost daily and have for years). Also, my father became abusive at times (I later learned he was a closet alcoholic) and once during an argument he put his hands around my neck and shoved me against a wall. He would often intimidate me mentally and physically to get his way.
So I go to college and I dislike the instruction, it's poor. I can learn this on my own. Plus my father isn't paying the tuition on time. I leave school without telling my parents (because they would flip out on me, threats, etc.) travel to LA and live with a friend from work. This guy is major partier and there are parties every night. It was great for awhile but I got sick of it and came back to live near my parents. I did my best to make peace. It's been mostly fine ever since for years but recently my mother tells me while we were discussing our lives "You left school, you were bad, irresponsible. I know it was a long time ago but...." I said "Yea, did you know that dad strangled me against the wall" etc.. My mother is now very defiant and treating me like I left college yesterday in her attitude. I really sucks after all I put into the relationship to make it good. Should I just forget about it or should I just leave? I really don't want to stay around if they think me leaving school means I'm a naturally bad person or something. Is you family like this or are mine just abusive erks?