gaslighting wrote:
Part 2:
My wife came out afterwards and asked what happened and I told her the story. The crazy lady pulled up to my neighbor (at 206 Aspen) a couple of minutes later and started talking to him. I could see them looking at me, clearly she was telling him about our encounter. My neighbor, an old man who lives alone, comes over to my yard and says "This lady says you were being rude to her."
I told him about the previous encounter and he said "So you don't know who your neighbor is?" I was pretty pissed that he was taking her side and just said "Well I didn't know your house number off the top of my head. Besides, we never talk, you know?" Then he said "You're not Donald Trump, you can't talk to women like that." I was left speechless by that response so my wife responded "He did nothing wrong, please leave." My neighbor shook his head and walked back to his house. Also, during this entire conversation, the crazy lady was yelling at us from my neighbor's house, but I couldn't make out anything she was saying.
My wife and I went inside and had dinner. Afterwards I told her I was going to go try to make peace with my neighbor. I walked to his house and just asked him if that lady found what she was looking for. He said "Yes, I posted an ad online for a couch I was selling and she was buying it from me." I asked if he knew her and if she lived in the neighborhood and he said he didn't know her or where she was from, but she probably wasn't from around here. Then I said "Look I'm sorry you got caught in the middle of that but you have to believe me that she was being hostile towards me." Then said "Yeah, I'm sorry I took her side over yours. My house number is hard to see from the street so I could see how you wouldn't know my address. After I went back to help her with the couch and talked with her some more I could tell that she had a few screws loose."
We talked for a couple of minutes and finally I asked "Alright, so we're cool then?" He said "Yeah, we're good, but I still don't think you should have cussed at her. Maybe that's just me being an old southern gentlemen though." I was a little peeved by that, but figured there was some truth to it so I just said "Yeah I'll try to keep my cool next time." We shook hands and I went home.
Do you think my neighbor is right? Was it inappropriate for me to drop the f bomb on her? I do feel a little bad about it, but when I replay the scenario over in my head I feel like it was justified because of her hostility.