Ok so this might be a little rant but i just need advice on what to do or how to get along with her, i want to be a team player and everything but being around her is AWFUL and toxic right now and i cant stand it.
So a little background me and my running buddy are both going into senior year, i've been on the team from 9th grade and she started in 10th because she played soccer freshman year (additionally we are both pretty good but i am significantly faster 15-20 sec in the mile and 30-40 in 2 mile,). so she has ran one year less than me (and always mentions it as a rational for why she is slower than me, like she will randomly bring up "i'm as good as you were when you had been running for two years", when that is not true at all UGHHH) This is really annoying to me because i feel like im always there for her after bad races when she whining and crying about how she deserves to be faster and im always trying to help her confidence and tell her shes a good runner and give her good advice, and then she says things like that and acts like shes better than me so it feels unfair and makes me dislike being around her.
Other things would happen like her complaining how at my milage no college coach would want me because it's too high, then her secretly upping her milage during indoor and being shady about it. Or I would tell her to slow down easy runs and she would tell other people im trying to sabatoge her. It is so frustrating to me and I know i have somewhat contributed by occasionally one stepping her or not being completely forthcoming about what workout paces i ran but mainly i feel like my tendency has just been to avoid her.
This sucks because practice is unpleasant and this whole thing feels so immature. We used to get along fine.
The issue is that coach and her are really close and her likes her more (he was the teacher for 2 of her classes last year and none of mine), so he blames me for not working out with her or not training with her in the summer (so i recently had to start going to the teams optionally runs that she is at so he wouldn't be mad anymore), and it just feels to me like the two of them are a little team with the goal of having her beat me (i know that sounds ridiculous sorry). I don't know what to do, running with her is not whats best for me (or her) because we run to fast and it is too competitive, if i slow down and don't run with her coach says i'm slacking, even though she is the one who cuts runs short or makes me stop and wait for her when he isn't around (because she does easy days to fast lol). I'm mainly worried about in season once we start workouts (this is when she does the easy runs hard so she can beat me then goes 50 seconds per mile slower than me during the actually workouts!!)
sorry for the long post, please give me advice, i want to be mature and a team player and i dont want to be sucked into competing with a teamate but i just can't stand her!