Haven't been sleeping need serious advice

I tend to, when I'm getting tired, lie down on a bed and close my eyes. Have you tried this?

You need to relax. Try an over the counter sleep aid at first but try not to use it long. If the issue persists contact a real doctor.

Internet M.D. wrote:

You need to relax. Try an over the counter sleep aid at first but try not to use it long. If the issue persists contact a real doctor.

Umm no. Pills don't address the issue.

Diet, lifestyle are the reason not the lack of a pill.

Dr. Obvious wrote:

I tend to, when I'm getting tired, lie down on a bed and close my eyes. Have you tried this?

yes I often lie in bed awake with my eyes closed. Sometimes I feel like a caged animal however and get out of bed to do something else for a bit. I've heard it's better to get out of bed and do something else if you can't sleep

You need to stop over thinking and worrying about what happens the next day. Relax and dont over work yourself. Have time for you.

galen rupp look like an elf wrote:

Dr. Obvious wrote:

I tend to, when I'm getting tired, lie down on a bed and close my eyes. Have you tried this?

yes I often lie in bed awake with my eyes closed. Sometimes I feel like a caged animal however and get out of bed to do something else for a bit. I've heard it's better to get out of bed and do something else if you can't sleep

Internet M.D. wrote:

You need to relax. Try an over the counter sleep aid at first but try not to use it long. If the issue persists contact a real doctor.

I've been having issues for years. It started getting worse in grad school, but I could wake up whenever I wanted so if I had a sleepless night I'd just stay in bed until 12. Now I have to get up by 7:30 no matter what. I always worried about how my sleeping patterns would affect my life once I have a job, but I never thought it would be this abysmal.

That said I would never take sleep meds except for maybe melatonin if I found out I have some sort of legit chemical imbalance. Sleep meds to me are straight up suicide and I don't want to be the next Heath Ledger/Michael Jackson

[quote]Island wrote:

You need to stop over thinking and worrying about what happens the next day. Relax and dont over work yourself. Have time for you.[quote]

Easier said than done my friend

galen rupp look like an elf wrote:

[quote]Island wrote:

You need to stop over thinking and worrying about what happens the next day. Relax and dont over work yourself. Have time for you.[quote]

Easier said than done my friend

I have an Idea. Go to a scenic area and meditate there and enjoy the nature and beauty of the great outdoors. Would you say you eat enough? Are you a big coffee drinker?

Island wrote:

galen rupp look like an elf wrote:

[quote]Island wrote:

You need to stop over thinking and worrying about what happens the next day. Relax and dont over work yourself. Have time for you.[quote]

Easier said than done my friend

I have an Idea. Go to a scenic area and meditate there and enjoy the nature and beauty of the great outdoors. Would you say you eat enough? Are you a big coffee drinker?

I don't know how to meditate. But that sounds kind of nice I live by a reservation that I could do that at.

I definitely eat enough I haven't had problems with that. Sometimes I worry about eating dinner too late like 7:30 some nights and then having to go to bed at 9:30-9:45 but idk if that's a problem. Idk there are so many contributing factors that could all be problems and if you look hard enough I feel like you could pick out all of these things, but #1 is there any such thing as perfect preparation for sleep and #2 it seems like everyone else gets along quite well without correcting the multitude of things I try to address do each night. No I do not touch coffee like I said drugs freak me out

I have actually had a problem like this in the past when I was Younger. It lasted 3 months. Definently go to that reservation. And just plan on sleeping 8-9 hours. Maybe try sleeping at 10:30 and wake up at 7 (just an example). Tell me friend, do you look at your phone or do anything with electronics before you go to bed? That can keep you up a hour. Do you sleep with your tv on? Is it too hot in your room? These are other possible factors and I believe heat is what kept me up back then.

Island wrote:

I have actually had a problem like this in the past when I was Younger. It lasted 3 months. Definently go to that reservation. And just plan on sleeping 8-9 hours. Maybe try sleeping at 10:30 and wake up at 7 (just an example). Tell me friend, do you look at your phone or do anything with electronics before you go to bed? That can keep you up a hour. Do you sleep with your tv on? Is it too hot in your room? These are other possible factors and I believe heat is what kept me up back then.

I have AC in my apt. I try my best to stay off electronic devices most nights I get home and just read. Don't sleep in the same room as the TV. this has been going on for a long time though I think I just have poor ways of processing stresses

Two suggestions:

1) spank it when you can't sleep

2) go on a cruise. You're completely disconnected from the world as long as you don't pay for internet. No stress, relax, do what you want whenever you want, no set schedules. My best sleep in years has been on a boat.

How do You feel about your job? An hour commute sheesh. Would you be much happier with a job thats closer? And what is your job exactly? You might be over working yourself it seems and you could be doing too much throughout the day. If you dont enjoy your job and you resent going to it it might be time of change and life style. Something in your schedule definintly is not adding up and something has to go. It seems there's a struggle.

Vitamin C is stress reducing. It's used up when people feel stress.

If you drink caffeine of any sort stop. I thought i was sleeping well for years until i cut out my 2pm coffee and realized how i could have been sleeping.

Also got to a doctor, sounds like anxiety to me.

Spank it! wrote:

Two suggestions:

1) spank it when you can't sleep

2) go on a cruise. You're completely disconnected from the world as long as you don't pay for internet. No stress, relax, do what you want whenever you want, no set schedules. My best sleep in years has been on a boat.

1) absolutely not. When I decide to go that route I cannot sleep for another 3-4 hours at least. For me it is completely incompatible with sleep I am not at all relaxed after just weirdly jittery and slightly sick

2) I just went on my honeymoon a month ago (had p good sleep then) and started a new job right after so I have like no leave right now. Also I have never had the desire to go on a cruise

Try meditation. It helps me sleep by just allowing me to completely clear my mind before laying down. I'm not an expert on it myself. I usually just find a Youtube video that walks through a routine.

Island wrote:

How do You feel about your job? An hour commute sheesh. Would you be much happier with a job thats closer? And what is your job exactly? You might be over working yourself it seems and you could be doing too much throughout the day. If you dont enjoy your job and you resent going to it it might be time of change and life style. Something in your schedule definintly is not adding up and something has to go. It seems there's a struggle.

I am a "scientist" (math PhD), so basically I sit in front of a computer most of the day and look at patterns in models and try to describe them with mathematics. Aside from the commute the job is really all I could hope for; a research environment with interesting problems and low stress. I can't leave the job though I'm locked in for 4 years. Also my wife works in Boston and she's making 160% of her salary and is a stud at her job, so she's not leaving anytime soon. And I really don't even mind the commute because I like listening to music and sports radio. It's just the constant feeling of being on the clock even when I'm supposed to be sleeping. It's weird in grad school I had zero schedule and I HATED it; I would have done anything to be on a regular schedule. Now that I am I feel like I can't relax at all. I don't want my running to fall off the table because it's my physical center idk what I'd do without it.

less ice wrote:

If you drink caffeine of any sort stop. I thought i was sleeping well for years until i cut out my 2pm coffee and realized how i could have been sleeping.

Also got to a doctor, sounds like anxiety to me.

no coffee friend, more trouble than it's worth. and yes I definitely feel like I have some kind of anxiety rn. Have you been to a therapist for something similar?