Is it normal to think about other women when having sex with your wife?

She does it too, going on 4 years in your case.

Actually that would make me feel a heck of a lot better if she did. Why is this never talked about if this is normal for both partners?

That's nice of you.

I don't know why we don't talk about it. Probably because for most people it's starts off only now and then and they kind of try to pull themselves back to reality. Other people like you , perhaps, start off doing it only now and then and think , don't rock the boat it's only now and then, but now and then becomes always and you just go on not talking about it, until what , I don't know.

Don't keep it a secret. Humans are not hard-wired for monogamy, so, don't panic.

I'm not going to do your homework for you, but it's an opportunity to add some new spice for the both of you and have it be a positive experience for the both of you.

You need to find a way that isn't as plain and insulting on the face of it as "Honey, I imagine someone else during adult fun time..."

As another post has already mentioned, don't assume you are the only one she's thinking about..

Open and honest communication based in compassion is what's required.

You aren't alone in this occurrence.

It doesn't happen every time, but for some reason, when I was having sex with your wife last week, an image of Jennifer Aniston popped into my head. Probably due to the friends re-run I had watched earlier.

I wouldn't think much of it. As others have said, it's totally normal.

Yes, very normal. Every time I have sex with your wife I'm thinking of another, much hotter chick

Every time I am making love to Hardloper I am visualizing a beautiful lady.

I think about when I broke 14 in the 5000 at the Stanford Invite.

Is it weird that I think about other women having sex with my wife? Like maybe her and Becky's mom from storytime?

According to this forum, it's not normal to actually have sex with your wife regardless of what you're thinking at the time.

taboo topics wrote:

Asking for a friend ;) Seriously though I would say it's been at least 3 years since no one else has popped into my head when having sex!

I find my wife very attractive so it's not that simple. Is this normal programming for a male brain or am I destined to be a Bill Clinton?

Just make sure you don't inadvertently shout-out a name while climaxing 😂 It happen to me one time, and I had to sleep on the couch for 6 months! 🤐

taboo topics wrote:

Asking for a friend ;) Seriously though I would say it's been at least 3 years since no one else has popped into my head when having sex!

I find my wife very attractive so it's not that simple. Is this normal programming for a male brain or am I destined to be a Bill Clinton?

Sadly, I find myself thinking about Eleanor Roosevelt, and I'm not even a Democrat.

Dufus wrote:

She does it too, going on 4 years in your case.

You are clueless about the female orgasm. It's not imagining a "hot guy" that does it, it's focusing on the sensation of what's feeling good.

Rookie.

Not FDR wrote:

Sadly, I find myself thinking about Eleanor Roosevelt, and I'm not even a Democrat.

I think of Gloria Steinem, at east she is straight and not unattractive

I have never thought about the woman I am having sex with. What would be the point of that?

you know who I am wrote:

Not FDR wrote:

Sadly, I find myself thinking about Eleanor Roosevelt, and I'm not even a Democrat.

I think of Gloria Steinem, at east she is straight and not unattractive

Gloria Steinem was a Playboy Bunny, is open about the illegal abortion she had, and still promotes the slaughter of innocent human beings via abortion. That's a huge turn-off for lots of people.

Not Dead Yet wrote:

you know who I am wrote:

I think of Gloria Steinem, at east she is straight and not unattractive

Gloria Steinem was a Playboy Bunny, is open about the illegal abortion she had, and still promotes the slaughter of innocent human beings via abortion. That's a huge turn-off for lots of people.

All too typical. In the USA, unmarried women procure more than 80% of abortions; of the remaining less than 20% of abortions (those procured by married women), a significant percentage may be by women impregnated by men to whom they are not married: abortion in the USA is overwhelmingly a consequence of sex between people unmarried to each other. Further, the majority of women having abortions in the USA were using a "contraceptive" drug or device when they conceived the child they aborted (many so called "contraceptives," besides failing to prevent conception, may also cause a very early abortion).

Hugh Hefner, that grand promoter of non-marital sex, was a huge supporter of abortion.

I doubt it wrote:

Dufus wrote:

She does it too, going on 4 years in your case.

You are clueless about the female orgasm. It's not imagining a "hot guy" that does it, it's focusing on the sensation of what's feeling good.

Rookie.

Comfort yourself with that, you scrawny little distance runner.

Who's to say what's normal?