Ocean State wrote:
I'd say there's some degree of selection bias related to the personality type that distance running attracts.
Many of the runners I've known are somewhat introverted and obsessive. This is not to criticize those characteristics, but rather to acknowledge that such traits are not always conducive to success with the ladies.
Fortunately, during college, runners of both sexes tend to let their proverbial hair down a bit. Once the lads and lasses develop greater social confidence and self-esteem, they are able to discover the joys of romantic relationships. Practice makes perfect; the important thing is just to break the ice.
I've never bought into the whole "distance runners' bodies aren't sexy" BS. A lean and ectomorphic frame can still turn on members of the opposite sex. What's more important is the personality and personal bearing of the individual attached to such a frame.
I think you are correct to a great extent. A lot of young distance runners, male and female will spend 90% of their time obsessing over academics and athletics and only socialize with kids who are just like them. That obsessiveness becomes their personality trait and this is how the opposite sex sees them and it is not a very romantic characterization. Not having muscles or hips plays a biological role as well, but since there are a lot of non-runner thin guys and gals who date a lot, the biology is only part of it. Guys tend to be interested in girls who they perceive as interested in guys and vice versa. Also, when you spend all of your time obsessing over running a PR and/or getting an A+ in an honors class, you are not developing the social skills for romance.
This is an issue I've dealt with when I was coaching H.S. Young, attractive and successful kids in their late teens who have never been kissed and have no prospects for the prom. I had a situation where a female I coached was one of the top students at a highly academic high school and was one of the top runners in the nation. Her name is someone a lot LRC members would know. She asked me if I could help set her up with my son for the prom, she broke down crying when I told her my son already had his prom date. It bothered (actual angered) her that the girl he was going to the prom with was perceived as a pot smoking slut, which wasn't exactly the case, but never-the-less, he choose this girl over her, someone he had been friends with since 7th grade. Turns out, my son liked this runnergirl girl since middle school, but felt all she was interested in was being friends and running. The advice I gave this kid was the same advice I gave my own son and daughter and that was to break out of the runner-straight A student circle, get to know other kids in the school and do something to let the opposite sex know that you are interested. You don't need to be perceived as a pot smoking slut, but exchange your Nikes for a pair of pumps and put on some lipstick every now and then. If a runnergirl comes to school just once with lipstick or a runnerguy with a fresh hair cut and shoes, that one incidence signals you are interested the opposite sex. - Hopefully this helps.