When you spend a solid money to take a woman out to a nice restaurant and she says she would like to "hang out" agai

Why do you think its your responsibility to pay for her meal in the first place?

She seemed to welcome my paying and didn't resist or attempt to pay herself

Not answering the question. Is she homeless and jobless and disabled? Why are you paying for things? Does she not work? You dont you make her pay for your meal and stop the double standard. Is this really what america has come to?

u r confused wrote:

Not answering the question. Is she homeless and jobless and disabled? Why are you paying for things? Does she not work? You dont you make her pay for your meal and stop the double standard. Is this really what america has come to?

Yo I'm just trying to find out if this woman is into me or not. If she isn't and just wants to be friends or that crap, I'd rather not waste the time and "hanging out" when I could be spending it with women more likely to lead somewhere

Make a move next time you hang out.

So the point of paying for the meal was to increase the chance that she will sleep with you?. I get it.

Remember, you dont have to pay for things just because you are a male. Make her pay her own way and then theres no regret if you dont get any pussee out of it. You have lost any money. Find a real woman who pays her way. Then theres no question if shes using you for money or not.

u r confused wrote:

So the point of paying for the meal was to increase the chance that she will sleep with you?. I get it.

Remember, you dont have to pay for things just because you are a male. Make her pay her own way and then theres no regret if you dont get any pussee out of it. You have lost any money. Find a real woman who pays her way. Then theres no question if shes using you for money or not.

Not to increase the chance she will sleep with me. I'm looking for a real relationship - you know - a girlfriend. I'm just trying to ask here if I'm being let down easy and this woman doesn't want me to pursue her anymore or whether there's something there. I'm not paying so I can get quick sex or anything.

Um if he asked her out on a date, I would hope he would pay for it. If I guy said to me " I'd like to take you out to dinner" and then made me pay, it would be a bit of a turn off. Not because I'm cheap and don't want to pay (in fact I still will offer)...but the fact that he initiated the date and was doing it in the hopes of a relationship, that would be the right thing to do. To the OP, I wouldn't take the phrase hang out as she is not serious. I say that sometimes and it's probably her way of saying she would like to do something again with you.Give it at least another shot.

Klo98 wrote:

Um if he asked her out on a date, I would hope he would pay for it. If I guy said to me " I'd like to take you out to dinner" and then made me pay, it would be a bit of a turn off. Not because I'm cheap and don't want to pay (in fact I still will offer)...but the fact that he initiated the date and was doing it in the hopes of a relationship, that would be the right thing to do. To the OP, I wouldn't take the phrase hang out as she is not serious. I say that sometimes and it's probably her way of saying she would like to do something again with you.Give it at least another shot.

This is Bullcrap. If the guy is doing all the driving, why should he be expected to pay for her meal too?

Never in my life have I heard the idea the person who asks the other person to go with them should be expected to pay just because the date was their idea. So are you saying that if a woman asks a guy to go eat, then the woman should pay for the guy?

Asking someone to ho somewhere with them means just that. That they will be on your presence. Its not an automatic gesture that the invited should cover all costs.

"Asking someone to ho somewhere with them means just that."

Freudian slip?

Based on your communication skills in writing this thread I have no idea what this signals.

And you mentioned something about a text.

Maybe try having a number of actual phone conversations to establish a rapport so you can determine each other's interest levels in each other.

Uh, do you like her?

you're overthinking this, just go with it. just do something cheap if you're worried about footing the bill. options include:

summer is coming, take her on a boat and tip it over.

take her to six flags and then abandon her. deeply.

claim you moved to Wyoming and see if she'll follow you

get a better looking friend to date her on a date then make her pay, then she'll really be into you

give her some abc gum. if she accepts, you're in.

dating isn't complicated. follow your heart, dude.

Of course the man pays on a first date. The mistake was going out to an expensive restaurant.

Call her to see if she wants to go out for a casual drink, rather than a formal meal.

I know what you mean. I took Gert out to the nicest Chick-Fila in town and neither she or her Mom would put out. They even had me hang out on the porch for a couple hours thinking I had a chance.

Solid _|~ wrote:

Is this a signal through a text that you're getting friend-zoned and wasting your time and money trying to move this further?

She just thanked you for the meal and said she wants to spend more time with you. Take her up on it. But don't think that because you paid it means you've bought a ticket to Sploosh Mountain.

It's not just up to you to move this further. Text her back and say you'd love to hang out again, but have her pick the activity. Say you're sure that anything she picks will be fun. That puts the responsibility on her to come up with something. Depending on what she picks, that'll give you some idea. Maybe she'll pick something where she pays. Maybe.

Randy Oldman wrote:

Of course the man pays on a first date. The mistake was going out to an expensive restaurant.

Call her to see if she wants to go out for a casual drink, rather than a formal meal.

This. Never do dinner on a first date. Grab a drink and if you are having fun, grab a couple more and maybe something small at the bar to split. If you go out to dinner you are potentially stuck spending a couple hours and a good chunk of change with someone that you may find you aren't interested in, or worse yet completely dislike.

As far as the original question, yes she is at least somewhat into you and wants to go out with you again. I would recommend something other than dinner.

Solid _|~ wrote:

When you spend solid money to take a woman out to a nice restaurant and thanking you for the lunch/dinner and she says she would like to "hang out" again

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth, OP.

Can't answer without pics of the woman in question.

You're an idiot for taking her to an expensive restaurant on the first date. You meet for drinks, coffee, ice cream or something fun with a quick and easy exit option, in case one of you can't stand being around each other. Dinner in an unexciting, unoriginal scenario that traps both you until the conclusion of the meal is an amateur setup.

Also, if you want to know how the woman feels about you, make a move on the next date or be forward about your intentions. If she isn't comfortable with that, be respectful and agree to not see each other again. Move along to the next prospect.