Daughter and I want Transfer from Creepy Coach

Is there only one coach for boys and girls?

Get your priorities in order and get out.

Why do your priorities include permitting her to be in a potentially unsafe envrionment? You've got to examine your own actions in this situation.

What a conundrum. smh

Have you talked to the AD at all?

Are you sure he is coaching next year?

There could be a list of prior complaints that don't reach the standard.

Few ADs will want to protect someone who eventually they are going to get sued over.

There is an assistant coach that is female. They are have each other's 6's all the way, though. And, not that there is anything wrong with it, but I'm not sure I trust the female either.

As for priorities.. I think it is obvious that I have good priorities and want to protect my daughter and remove her from any potentially unsafe environment. The degree of eminence of the danger is unknown, and my daughter would like to continue on varsity. Thank you for your great help.

Why not just move?

Yeah, if I trusted the system, that is how we would go about it. But, from what I've seen, the schools (teachers and administrators back each other no matter what). Just a few months ago, a nearby school had their XC coach indicted for molesting boys. The coach had been there for over 15 years, and parents had been raising red flags all along the way. Maybe some of the victims will win some lawsuit, but I bet it is not their preference.

I appreciate the solid perspective, though. And, if he weren't coaching next year, that would be the best!

Probably is a troll post. But if not Dad needs to pay the coach a visit and suggest that if my daughter continues to feel uneasy around you there are going to be some serious problems between me and you.

Is it "the Dizzle"?

http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=1358998&page=0

0/10 Been done before.

However, if it were true, you, the AD, and principal should have a meeting to air your concerns.

What does you remaining silent do?

Victim-blaming... It exists. First, we have nothing very tangible. Second, they'll make a case for why its untrue. Third, don't care about making waves - just want out. Our getting the hell out of there would be making a statement with our feet.

What are valid reasons to transfer that will not cost a year of competition? Thank you in advance.

what Troll-la-la said. And do it yesterday

Athletic Director - What seems to be the Problem?

OP- Well, you know. He's "super creepy".

So are you saying you want to have your child transfer high schools just for running reasons? If things are this bad, even with a he said/she said, you need to go to the administration.

As an FYI, I know the transfer rule (without moving) is many league and state association rules, not just a school rule because how could one school enforce that at another school

By the way, what do you mean by him being super creepy? Not doubting but just wanted perspective.

It may be possible to talk to the AD about next years coaches without airing everything.

Does your school have a boosters club? It might be possible to approach the boosters president or in the case of our school, the winter or spring track parent to see if there have been other complaints.

Where we are, transferring without moving or at least changing your daughters official residence takes a lawyer...

It used to be you could transfer to a school with open spaces for almost any reason if you agreed to provide transportation. After 2008, and the resulting flood of transfers from private to public school, no more easy transfers.

RapeAvoidanceIsSmart wrote:

My daughters high school coach is super creepy. And, while we feel he has been inappropriate, we don't have anything that can't be reduced to a "He said, she said". We don't want drama - we just want out. At the same time, though, there is a school rule that says that transfers require that an athlete not run on varsity for a year. This would also be horrible. What should we do? What are valid reasons to get a transfer to be approved?

There are usually exceptions to the transfer rule, like if you actually move. If it really matters to you, you can get an apartment/condo in a neighboring city.

Talk to the principal. If not helpful, go to the district. Education is sensitive to creepers and olesters these days. Whistle blowers are protected by anonymity. If you get nowhere, remove her from the team. She's a kid.

Have your daughter keep a journal/log of everything questionable with the coach. If you feel there is enough information to make a complaint to the AD, then do so.

I would encourage your daughter to avoid situations where there are opportunities to be around the coach and have him behave inappropriately. She should enlist the help of friends on the team for this. She should ask other friends on the team if they have observed the same behavior, but she (or you) are in no position to complain about what others have observed, it just may confirm your experience.

Try to attend a practice or meet and observe the coach with all the other kids on the team. Try to spend some time talking to the coach about their background, experience and get to know them and them you. If you aren't comfortable with the type of person they are, that's another reason to make a change.

It may be a stretch to ask to be exempt from a transfer rule to sit out a year just because you don't like a coach (for whatever reason), but you may be better off having your daughter quit the team and train with a running club or a private coach or try another after school activity than continue with a coach that she is uncomfortable with.

Carl Spackler wrote:

you may be better off having your daughter quit the team and train with a running club or a private coach or try another after school activity than continue with a coach that she is uncomfortable with.

Exactly. Get out. I'm still not sure why there is a decision to make.

Running just isn't that important.