I was thinking the same thing. Why is this thread all about what women have done? Why does it seem like it is all women who are the "crazy" ones?
I think that this is partly due to the stereotype that women are traditionally more "crazy". I read this article a while ago, and I think that it sums up some of the problem that men have in seeing women. While I think that most of the stories of women in this thread have real issues, the point made in this article is something that we should be aware of in society. We label women as "crazy" to degrade and take away the chance that women have to have perfectly normal emotions.
Article:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2014/07/09/men-really-need-to-stop-calling-women-crazy/
With all that said I have never dated a girl (I'm male) with BPD, nor anything that resembles it. My experience is with a male who is mostly likely not quite full blown BPD, but is manipulative, narcissistic, and lacks empathy. He actually ruined a relationship I had with a girl of 3 years. She by no means BPD, but easily fell under his spell and it was only downhill from there. I do not fully blame him for the failed relationship, but I now know that there was no chance for it to be worked out after she started to "hang out" with him. Once our relationship started to get a little bit rocky, he stepped in and it was pretty much over in two weeks.
Some of the things that I is that he has burned every bridge, everywhere his has been. This includes college, his hometown, and currently here. It happens in cycles. First he comes off as a great guy. He is a goofball, jokes, and he will be your best friend. After a while, it begins to become apparent that everything is about him. Everything is done on his time, you have no personal space, but he does. All of his relationships, both male and female, are one sided. He never does anything for you unless it will benefit him in someway. Eventually he does something that blows up and pisses someone or everyone off, then he is alone and clearly gets depressed. Eventually, people start to feel sorry for him, next thing you know, he is in people's good graces again. Then rinse and repeat. In the two years that I have known him, I have already seen this cycle a couple of times, one of those involved me.
In regards to girls, he has no moral compass. If they are female, he sees them as targets, regardless of relationship. Beyond just the instance I mentioned earlier, he would constantly hit on another guy's fiance, which led to a falling out with those two guys. He has hit on, made a move, or done something inappropriate to every girl that has come through our job, which has driven pretty much all girls away.
In his relationship with girls he can exhibit some of the symptoms of BPD. Ex: Calling a girl 12 times is a row when he found out she was hanging out with another guy. And this was a girl who he was only talking to, not officially dating.
He has cheated with every girlfriend that he as ever had, except for one, whom he thought was the perfect girl. And they ironically broke up because he thought she was not putting as much into the relationship as he was. HA
As for me, it sucks being around him (I see him pretty much at least once a day). I puts me on guard with what I say and do, knowing that he has no problem using anything against anyone. Since my relationship with my ex ended, I have pretty much gone the route of not speaking to him unless it is related to work, and even then I say as little as possible. He still tries to be nice and friendly to me, but I just don't respond back. I see it that if I am not friends with him, hopefully there is nothing that he can suck me into the hole of drama he can create. One thing that is truly believe is that my job in regards to the entire atmosphere, and everyone else, would be much better off without him, but of course my view is biased.
I know that my story seems odd and there are some details that seem left out, which would help the post be more coherent. This is done on purpose. If I explained more, like why I see him everyday or my job, it would become too apparent who I am, and I would only post this in anonymity.