ex-gf in earthquake hit CA - send her a message?

Leave her alone.

delete her number

I disagree with previous two posters. I think you should send her a direct, to the point message saying you hope everything is ok with her out there (do not get overly emotional or bring up the past). However things ended, something like this should trump anything said in the heat of the moment that caused a bit of a rocky split.

How do you know she is ok?

If you are just going by the odds, that doesn't mean she isn't upset.

Send the message, it is always better to do something and regret it then to not do something and regret it.

Take the underhill

If you find yourself pondering whether it is appropriate or not to contact an ex for even a second, the answer is a resounding 'NO'.

Your welcome.

send a picture of your junk

That would a nice thing to do. it's nothing to share care and love with someone you still miss. as long as you still care and miss her, nothing wrong about this. actually shows her your open mind

Ask her if she felt the Earth move? If so, tell her that was you doing it!

That will get you back in her Calvin Klein's.

I appreciate the suggestions but I'm going to go with 'multiples' reply. I actually don't know if she's alright but my reluctance to message her (despite being a fairly open person) tells me it would not be the best decision. Perhaps my heart is viewing our past through rose-colored glasses when in reality my mind knows that our time was growing thin.

multiple personality disorder wrote:

If you find yourself pondering whether it is appropriate or not to contact an ex for even a second, the answer is a resounding 'NO'.

Your welcome.

Rockymtnhi wrote:

send a picture of your junk

This of course is the correct response. Remind her of what she's missing.

The problem with that is the actual quake was a 6+ on the Richter scale and he's only a 4 at best. So she won't be impressed with his junk enough to be reminded of what she's missing. That's why she moved in the first place. Looking for her first 10.

Tinfoil hat wrote:

Rockymtnhi wrote:

send a picture of your junk

This of course is the correct response. Remind her of what she's missing.

Is this the same guy who wanted to crap in a blender and mail it to her a week or so ago? If so, my advice, don't text her.

For what it's worth, the epicenter of the quake was in Napa. I didn't even feel it in the east bay, which is closer to Napa than SF. I'm sure she is fine.

Ted Underhill wrote:

I disagree with previous two posters. I think you should send her a direct, to the point message saying you hope everything is ok with her out there (do not get overly emotional or bring up the past). However things ended, something like this should trump anything said in the heat of the moment that caused a bit of a rocky split.

^^This, It's never wrong to let someone know that you thought about them when some sort of tradgedy strikes. Don't make it any more than that and you will be ok. Find your better self. If you lost it for awhile, it is never too late to get it back.

Don't bother...

I'm comforting her ;-)

How are the tatas?

been around ya' know wrote:

Ted Underhill wrote:

I disagree with previous two posters. I think you should send her a direct, to the point message saying you hope everything is ok with her out there (do not get overly emotional or bring up the past). However things ended, something like this should trump anything said in the heat of the moment that caused a bit of a rocky split.

^^This, It's never wrong to let someone know that you thought about them when some sort of tradgedy strikes. Don't make it any more than that and you will be ok. Find your better self. If you lost it for awhile, it is never too late to get it back.

Tragedy? I don't even think anyone die. Gimme a break!

been around ya' know wrote:

Ted Underhill wrote:

I disagree with previous two posters. I think you should send her a direct, to the point message saying you hope everything is ok with her out there (do not get overly emotional or bring up the past). However things ended, something like this should trump anything said in the heat of the moment that caused a bit of a rocky split.

^^This, It's never wrong to let someone know that you thought about them when some sort of tradgedy strikes. Don't make it any more than that and you will be ok. Find your better self. If you lost it for awhile, it is never too late to get it back.

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