What degree and experience do you have? What is the life experience that you gained that us working types somehow missed out on? Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed being single in my teens and twenties, but I did it while getting my degree, working full time and getting my professional licensing which have made my life much easier now that I am in my mid 40s. Some of the greatest experiences in my life have been falling in love, getting married and being a parent. I have travelled to fun places, climbed lots of mountains, fished lots of rivers and oceans, but at the same time, I did all those things while being financially responsible. My wife has a cousin that sounds a little like you. Decided to go live life out in California after graduating with a degree in Recreation or some other worthless major and not pursue the evils of a career, wealth, and a family. He is now in his late 40s, lives in his parent's basement, fried his brain doing a bunch of drugs in Hollywood, and has no money and no real job (unless you call substitute teaching and coaching high school tennis a job).