Would you like a cookie, sir?
Your “quality of life” didn’t improve, the way people saw you changed.
Just goes to show that you base way too much of your self worth on how people/women see you. Change that mindset and your quality of life will improve a lot more, thankfully - most people tend to grow out of that way of thinking by age 30.
But good for you if you’re happier!
glad you are happy. God has a plan for everyone.
fyi, you can still run, you just need to eat more!
I am 6'0" and weigh 145. Girls like me because I am big. But also for many other less vacuous reasons like intelligence and wit.
When we stop running we don’t get fat, we just look like normal people.
Women that want a safe man prefer dad bods. That's most women. Women who want to admire and play don't want dad bods.
Ask a fat man who doesn't want to be in a committed relationship or isn't committed relationship material how much free play he gets.
Hey dummy...you could have lifted some weights in college and run 4:17 at 145 lbs like most normal 5’10” D3 runners.
6-2, 175, 53 years old.
There's truth to what the OP said, but where I disagree is that you had to *totally* sacrifice running in order to have success with women. Here's my experience as 5'9" runner:
When I was 18 years old I ran 4:25 at 130lb and had one prospect every few months, I was mostly a "nice guy" and "boyfriend material."
When I was 22 years old I ran 4:01 at 140lb and I'd have girls express interest about every other week. I wasn't everyone's cup of tea but if I worked hard I could play to my strengths to date casually.
By the time I was ~30 years old I ran 4:10 at 150lb and have been doing upper-body work every other day. My body fat % is slightly lower than when I was 18 and 130lb, so my aesthetic is well-defined with an extra 20lb of upper-body muscle. The result is that I get a continuous stream of daily interest in real-life and on dating apps, and can afford to be selective and specific in my tastes. I would be lying if I said it was all a superficial change, as my maturity, confidence, and professional success all have had positive impacts on being able to relate to and attract the opposite sex. The most dramatic change is actually mindset - once you start having an influx of interest you become less keen on meeting people and more focused on maximizing the quality of who you spend your time (and body) with.
800 dude wrote:
Just gonna assume that the OP is legit.
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I think if the OP is being truthful about his experience, it's down to probably 2 things. First, he has a great deal more confidence because he's bigger. He obviously had some kind of inferiority complex about his size before, and that's always going to be killer when dealing with women...
The speculation that the poster is struggling with psychological issues (inferiority complex) issue seems reasonable; it ties in well with going to some anonymous running board to boast about how good looking he is.
K.Dynamite wrote:
I am training to be a cage fighter, and I have been chatting online with gays all day.
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You are so brave. Thank you for sharing.
I think you are angry because you worked so hard to not even be mediocre. 4:17 is good for school. For College, with serious training, and maturity of the body it is not good.
So I think the combination of you being a pencil neck and being a mediocre runner is what finally made you switch to weightlifting. To run a 4:17 with excellent training is like running a 54 second 400 with excellent training. Not in the least bit impressive. I think what made you less confident was you being so skinny and only running 4:17.
Now running a 4:17 off of low mileage 10-15 miles per week, which you clearly did not do (since you are so skinny), is very very impressive. But you were not in that position.
Belarussiya wrote:
I think you are angry because you worked so hard to not even be mediocre. 4:17 is good for school. For College, with serious training, and maturity of the body it is not good.
So I think the combination of you being a pencil neck and being a mediocre runner is what finally made you switch to weightlifting. To run a 4:17 with excellent training is like running a 54 second 400 with excellent training. Not in the least bit impressive. I think what made you less confident was you being so skinny and only running 4:17.
Now running a 4:17 off of low mileage 10-15 miles per week, which you clearly did not do (since you are so skinny), is very very impressive. But you were not in that position.
Did you really just compare a 54 second 400 to a 4:17 mile?!?!?!? One of those times could get you a partial scholarship, while the other puts you on a JV 4x4 team. My former high school has like 8-10 guys who could run 54 sec right now, but our school record is literally slower than 4:17.