How bad is this behavior from my coach?

Have you actually heard these with your own ears? Or is it other team members saying “he said this...”

“compliments and pick up lines?”

You sound dramatic

Without an actual example of something he said, your complaint is meaningless. If he is advising an awkward young man to tell a girl that she is pretty, I fail to see a problem. Be specific.

Liabilitychild wrote:

This... why ruin someone’s life? You seem like one of those that needs to cause drama and claim sexual harassment for everything. Calm down!

Ignore the idiots like this one.

Coaches who do what the OP has stated are way out of line, and need to be held accountable.

Definitely do not keep this a secret as that could put you bad situations.

I dare you to tell us what school this is at.

Catcher440 wrote:

Have you actually heard these with your own ears? Or is it other team members saying “he said this...”

“compliments and pick up lines?”

You sound dramatic

A guy was trying to think of what to say in a text message to my teammate to ask her out on a date. The coach actually told him word for word what to say in that text message to my teammate.

College runner girl wrote:

Catcher440 wrote:

Have you actually heard these with your own ears? Or is it other team members saying “he said this...”

“compliments and pick up lines?”

You sound dramatic

A guy was trying to think of what to say in a text message to my teammate to ask her out on a date. The coach actually told him word for word what to say in that text message to my teammate.

So what?

If this offends you then you’re gonna have a hard life.

1) It’s none of your business

2). There’s nothing wrong with what you said he did.

Right. And the kid on the team is so shy but yet he does this right in front of “college runner girl”. He’s so shy but would know that other people can hear this conversation.? You also just happen to be one of about 50 women in entire country that comes to LRC? To top it off, “College Runner Girl” needs this advice to badly but yet doesn’t have anyone to turn to except LRC? Hmm.

Just another attempt to bad mouth a current or a former coach hoping that someone drops a name. Sorry. We aren’t idiots.

You should go to his office and beat him up. Code Red his behind.

Yes. You should absolutely talk to your school's Title IX person. doesn't matter what his intentions are, and you have absolutely no responsibility to tell your coach (who is supposed to be the f***ing adult in this situation) that their behavior is inappropriate. Report this to someone, and get others to do so as well.

This is disgusting behavior, and I'm so saddened to hear that this is happening.

So funny how many idiots fall for posts like these.

A girl is NOT going to write this way.

This is such a garbage, harmful thing to say. What about the lives that this coach (who is supposed to be the responsible mentor here) is potentially ruining by creating a culture of sexual conquest. Nope, time's up, we've seen this movie before and it never ends well. Report the coach, and if it turns out that no wrongdoing has occurred, then he gets to keep his job. Telling a college athlete to just calm down when we've seen things like this play out over and over again is ludicrous.

Flounder wrote:

College runner girl wrote:

A guy was trying to think of what to say in a text message to my teammate to ask her out on a date. The coach actually told him word for word what to say in that text message to my teammate.

So what?

If this offends you then you’re gonna have a hard life.

1) It’s none of your business

2). There’s nothing wrong with what you said he did.

Yeah, agreed. I was thinking it was much worse. But if this all the coach is doing, giving dating/girl advice to scrawny insecure male distance runners. Than they need the help.

Nice fake post wrote:

So funny how many idiots fall for posts like these.

A girl is NOT going to write this way.

Thank you. The first 47 posts saying this was fake weren't enough.

The question no one thought to ask, are you mad because his advice worked and you now feel played?

So the boy just wanted to ask her out on a date? Guys have been giving and receiving advice on talking to girls for approximately forever. I imagine that many happy marriages would not have occurred had not the groom received a little nudge from a well meaning friend.

Maybe you should dispense advice to the coach on how to behave himself in a professional setting around children.

eureka wrote:

Maybe you should dispense advice to the coach on how to behave himself in a professional setting around children.

Let's reverse the genders involved, ask the same question, and see if people have a problem with it. Would the grievance mongers advocate a female coach be hired for telling the shy women on the team what to text the men?

Viking21 wrote:

So the boy just wanted to ask her out on a date? Guys have been giving and receiving advice on talking to girls for approximately forever. I imagine that many happy marriages would not have occurred had not the groom received a little nudge from a well meaning friend.

You're way off base. Read the OP.

College runner girl wrote:

My coach helps the men on the team hit on the women on the team. He's telling them what to say and do in order to get in our pants. It's really creepy. This seems like some sort of sexual harassment to me. Is this something that should be reported to the Athletic Director?

The advice goes way beyond dating.

If the coach is actually doing this, then he should be fired immediately.

Read the OP wrote:

Viking21 wrote:

So the boy just wanted to ask her out on a date? Guys have been giving and receiving advice on talking to girls for approximately forever. I imagine that many happy marriages would not have occurred had not the groom received a little nudge from a well meaning friend.

You're way off base. Read the OP.

College runner girl wrote:

My coach helps the men on the team hit on the women on the team. He's telling them what to say and do in order to get in our pants. It's really creepy. This seems like some sort of sexual harassment to me. Is this something that should be reported to the Athletic Director?

The advice goes way beyond dating.

If the coach is actually doing this, then he should be fired immediately.

If you read further into the thread, you will see that the OP revealed that the coach told the boy how to ask for a date, not how to get her to drop her pants. Those are two entirely different things. I would not hesitate to give one of my boys advice on how to respectfully let a girl know he was interested in her. Unless you know what actually transpired, calling for the coach's head makes you look like a fool. Wait for some facts before throwing a noose over a tree limb. And to the poster calling for me to advise the coach on how to act around children, did you not see that the OP presents herself to be a college runner? I don't know how you define adulthood, but I was wearing a uniform and carrying a gun at their age. I doubt that dating advice would have significantly scarred my psyche.