Would you date a girl who used to be a stripper?

I went to high school with a girl who became a porn star a few years after we graduated. She’s retired now, but had a good 6 to 7 years in the biz. I’m Facebook friends with her (she found me) and her life is just drama after drama. She is nice on a surface level and very hot which masks her borderline personality disorder, her on again off again husband, a child that doesn’t want anything to do with her, alcohol issues, transient lifestyle, depression, delusions, and her lying. Despite how hot she is, there is so much baggage there that a relationship seems almost impossible.

There is nothing good that could come from dating a stripper.

https://youtu.be/7JttwV6XZ_I

Free_the_thigh wrote:

the obvious wrote:

What really bothers you is that she has probably had a lot more sexual partners than you, am I right?

The fact that a girl has had lots of sexual partners is a 100% turn off

I dated a woman who is among the most accomplished people I know well. I'll be somewhat more obscure here to avoid disclosing who she is but she earned a scholarship to an extremely selective specialty school in the USA from another nation. She speaks and writes English better than most native English speakers, she earned a PhD, has her own business, and bought a condo in a very tony town by herself. And she is tall, slim and beautiful.

But I found out that she might be alcoholic, definitely is anorexic, has lots of suicidal thoughts, had a brief marriage and divorced - it was a marriage of convenience to get US citizenship, has shacked up with about five guys, has tried group sex, often it seems, and described herself as a "sexual explorer." I don't want to guess how many sexual partners, abortions, STDs, etc., that she has had.

I think the root of much of her troubles stems from an incident when she was 13 years old: she was abducted, she told me, by three middle-aged men, dragged into a bathroom and sexually molested. She suddenly hugely distrusted men and would barely speak even to her own father.

I never got close to her sexually and she left me for someone else. But dating her was very strange for me: I was always wondering what she might be up to when she was not with me. Marriage with such a woman would have driven me batty.

malmo wrote:

There is nothing good that could come from dating a stripper.

https://youtu.be/7JttwV6XZ_I

Wow, Malmo, and I thought the Summer of Malmo was a great contribution.

The would be murder victim left his wife for the (ex-?)stripper who tried to have him killed. Dalia Dippolito makes me ponder the horror of hell.

How does stripper compare with only fans? Cuz I promise you, the majority out there trying to get paid.

I only recently found out what the heck Only Fans is. I had a good laugh when my friend (female) told me that people pay money for a subscription to photos and videos (usually nude) of each person they want to. I remember replying with "Wait, so you have to pay money on a per individual basis and people do this?"

With all the free porn out there, WHY would you do this?!!?

I guess the question really is what is your intention of "dating"?

If you are looking at a few months/weeks of fun, I think it'd be awesome.

You do NOT under any circumstances marry the stripper.

MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:

I only recently found out what the heck Only Fans is. I had a good laugh when my friend (female) told me that people pay money for a subscription to photos and videos (usually nude) of each person they want to. I remember replying with "Wait, so you have to pay money on a per individual basis and people do this?"

With all the free porn out there, WHY would you do this?!!?

They make you pay extra money to play freekin video games! I can't image ever doing that. Spend $60+ on a game then if you want to actually play it, you have to pay more?? I'd delete the whole thing the first time that ever happened but apparently it's very popular and lots of gamers do this.

I would not date or marry a girl who is a stripper. I would consider it if she condemned her past activities in the strongest possible way. Other than that, no way.

Nothing really wrong with dating one but the problem is 98 percent of strippers carry emotional baggage and/or have at least one distinct character flaw. The industry attracts those kind of women, from low self esteem morally bankrupt. That movie with Cardi B and Mariah Carey? Where the two women were strippers tell you what you need to know about the worst of them, which is most of them. Drugging men with date rape to steal their credit cards and money. That's what some strippers do. That is as low as it gets. The fact that Cardi B did that I real life which she admitted to should get her blacklisted. She is just as bad as Bill Cosby in my opinion. Even worse. At least Cosby didn't try to clean people out.

Would you buy a six year old rental car that has been abused by God knows how many people for your personal vehicle? If not, then you ought to pass on this opportunity also.

would not seriously date a stripper that's for sure. To me, that's the same as being long term attached to a trans, person from other race, or an ex-con. It's just a no go.

So let's flip this around....

Is it ok for men to be strippers, have had group sex in the past, and all sorts of sexual debauchery?

I say past is past. Present is present.

Alan

Runningart2004 wrote:

So let's flip this around....

Is it ok for men to be strippers, have had group sex in the past, and all sorts of sexual debauchery?

I say past is past. Present is present.

Alan

That's a point that tries to sound smart but isn't.

Men and women are different and are valued for different reasons. Feminists' won't like to hear that, but it's true.

Women that are promiscuous have mental health issues, whereas men with many a notch on the belt are not. Show me a woman that sleeps around a lot, and I will show you a girl with more baggage than Delta airlines.

Also people get very caught up on the sex part without thinking about what else it represents. It is EASY for a woman to be promiscuous it takes no effort to sleep around for a female. Any woman could bed as many men as she wanted if she so chose, it takes no effort. Compare that to a man, where it takes a LOT of effort to attract a female sexual partner. A guy that gets that many women is showing he has value, whereas a woman that does the same is showing she has none.

Thanks, Karen.

new to this wrote:

I've been dating a girl for a few weeks. We met online. I just found out she worked as a stripper for six years starting when she was 19. She is 28 now. When she told me I played it like I didn't care, but it makes be feel a little uncomfortable. I feel like I shouldn't care and would probably tell a friend it's no big deal, but for some reason I don't love it.

I would suggest not getting too attached to her.

The question is if she still does stripping for a living?

Exactly!

Isn't that what Jesus said? Something like, "Judge more, lest we fail to be judged. And then judge a little bit more."

I may have gotten that Jesus quote just a little bit wrong but you get the idea.

If she is still hot.