Siblings should not get their own individual bedrooms; they should share throughout childhood. Change my mind.

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Disagree. If you can afford it, by high school they should have their own rooms. I'd even put a sister and brother together if they were under 10 if it gave a high schooler his own room.

If you only have two kids and live in the middle of the country with affordable housing then why put them together. Different ages have different sleep needs and older kids need privacy. I still have a guest room/office and workout/treadmill room in the basement

Good Parent said: They learn to share, cope, and communicate.

I shared a bedroom with my older brother until I was 16, when I joined the military. that was in 1974.

we haven't spoken to each other since. so not much communicating going on in here.

cheers.

cotton shirt wrote:

I shared a bedroom with my older brother until I was 16, when I joined the military. that was in 1974.

we haven't spoken to each other since. so not much communicating going on in here.

cheers.

Why haven't you spoken to each other since?

zxczxczc wrote:

cotton shirt wrote:

I shared a bedroom with my older brother until I was 16, when I joined the military. that was in 1974.

we haven't spoken to each other since. so not much communicating going on in here.

cheers.

Why haven't you spoken to each other since?

Here's a hint: He ran away from home at the age of 16. Let's see if you can connect the dots.

Whatever works. My parents grew up like that, and I shared a room with my older brother until I was in 7th grade. WIth houses as large as they are now and families as small as they are, it is kind of a moot point. It's pretty selfish of you to have the extra room though and not let your kids have it. They will be better prepared to share a room with a complete stranger when they get to college though.

You already tried this lame thread. Go away.

Do you really want to have your mind changed on this or is the plot supposed to be that you're looking to argue with people who have different ideas for the sake of arguing? But if the purpose of sharing a room is to learn to share, cope, and communicate why should only same sex siblings get to have this beneficial experience at least in the years before puberty?

How do you know that sharing a bedroom will enhance the sharing and communicating skills of these siblings? It seems just as likely that because they are stuffed into such close quarters they could become even more committed to protecting their turf and possessions. Instead of communicating more, they could just as easily get sick of each other and withdraw into themselves. Not that I really care.

joedirt wrote:

Whatever works. My parents grew up like that, and I shared a room with my older brother until I was in 7th grade. WIth houses as large as they are now and families as small as they are, it is kind of a moot point. It's pretty selfish of you to have the extra room though and not let your kids have it. They will be better prepared to share a room with a complete stranger when they get to college though.

I don't think you know what "selfish" means.

I guess it would help get the kids outta the house quickly.

Who would want to live in a house where their parent would make their kids share a room so they can have "an office"?

Not that I care wrote:

Do you really want to have your mind changed on this or is the plot supposed to be that you're looking to argue with people who have different ideas for the sake of arguing? But if the purpose of sharing a room is to learn to share, cope, and communicate why should only same sex siblings get to have this beneficial experience at least in the years before puberty?

No, we are actually trying to decide whether or not to separate two boys who share a room, and looking for arguments against our present leaning, which is to keep them together. In my experience, brash thread titles usually get more responses than genuine ones, but from the replies, I may have come across too argumentatively. Oh well.

I see no problem - and a lot of the same communal benefit - in keeping a pre-pubescent son and daughter in the same room. I took them out because of the "throughout childhood" qualifier.

Since you don't seem like a complete douche, I would love to hear your thoughts.

Good Parent wrote:

Obv, this only applies to two brothers or two sisters, not brother & sister.

They learn to share, cope, and communicate. Plus, the extra room can be used as an office / workout room. Win - win.

The tone of your post is Marxist

The amount of time you are going to spend dealing with arguments that would be settled if they were not forced to co-habitate is going to drown out any benefit you receive from sticking to your position so you can have an office or work out room.

Their life will be better. Your life will be better. Remember they are just kids- THEY have nothing to lose by acting like complete A-holes... you have your sanity at stake.

My two boys (they are 2 & 3) share a room and it works great. I shared a room with my brother until he was 16 (and I was ~12), when my parents added a room onto the house. Anyways, originally our boys had their own rooms, but it was kind of weird having them apart. They'd wake up, then sit there by themselves in the morning until they got out of their cribs. Of course, alone time is a good thing, but in the same room, they wake up, babble back and forth, play with toys and generally have a good time.

Sure, there are frustrating moments when one will keep the other one awake, but for reading at night, getting ready in the morning and consolidating their stuff (dressers, etc) it works great. Once they're old enough for bunk beds, I think they will prefer that anyways. I had a lot of good times sharing a room with my brother, much to my parents' dismay, but it was great. We are thinking once they're in high school they can have their own rooms.. but as little kids that basically do all of the same things, wake up and go to bed at the same time and are best friends already.. why not combine? They seem to like it.

We had no scientific evidence as to whether it's better or worse, we just combined the rooms and tried it because that's what we were used to, and it didn't seem necessary for a two year old to have his own room. There are days when we need a break.. they just go into the room, shut the door and go nuts for an hour or two and it's great. I'd recommend it.

willywhanka wrote:

The amount of time you are going to spend dealing with arguments that would be settled if they were not forced to co-habitate is going to drown out any benefit you receive from sticking to your position so you can have an office or work out room.

Their life will be better. Your life will be better. Remember they are just kids- THEY have nothing to lose by acting like complete A-holes... you have your sanity at stake.

So kids with their own rooms don't fight?

I would agree with this line of reasoning if you were moving them FROM separate rooms TO a shared room. I don't think this flies if they grow up in the same room and it is all they have ever known.

When they get to middle school they’ll get made fun of if they’re still in a bunk bed. My Dad thought the same way you did. He bought a bunk bed when my older brother was born. My parents planned on two kids. My Mom gave my bro his own room when I was born and they gave me the bunk bed.

When I was a teenager I got a lot of sh!t from friends for sleeping in a bunk bed. I never understood why. The extra bunk was nice for storing stuff. Very space efficient.

Now if they have two beds that’s fine

lets make fun of the thousands of college kids that share rooms and have bunk beds. Every college kid should have a single right? some college kids have triples, quads, etc and they have the best "time of their lives".