Mom buys expensive car 1 year before I go to university

You should join the Coast Guard or Air Force. My parents had enough money to pay for college. But if I could do it over again, I would join the CG or AF. Because college is way overpriced. I would rather have those thousands of dollars in my bank account or put toward a house. Look at what the CG or AF provide. Tuition assistance (So you can take online classes. Oregon State or North Dakota for exaample), a month of vacation, the possibility to live in another country with the AF, salary, housing.

I graduated into the recession and everything was super bad. I still haven't caught up and basically my life has been pretty bad job wise and socially.

take time off wrote:

You should join the Coast Guard or Air Force. My parents had enough money to pay for college. But if I could do it over again, I would join the CG or AF. Because college is way overpriced. I would rather have those thousands of dollars in my bank account or put toward a house. Look at what the CG or AF provide. Tuition assistance (So you can take online classes. Oregon State or North Dakota for exaample), a month of vacation, the possibility to live in another country with the AF, salary, housing.

I graduated into the recession and everything was super bad. I still haven't caught up and basically my life has been pretty bad job wise and socially.

plus the chance to bomb unsuspecting civilians

pop_pop!_v2.2.1 wrote:

seaman recruit wrote:

i put myself through college - paid cash, no debt

Dealing drugs in 1966? No federal assistance at all?

Maybe you could sell your tale of rugged individualism to someone else.

Ahhhh .. the typical leftist... always wanting to spend other people’s money and mocking the hard working guy who does it on his own.

On the bright side, maybe she'll let you drive it to the senior prom.

Why don't you self identify on your application as a gay, African American Muslim? Not only will you get admitted, but all the scholarship money will flow in vs. the white male Christian. Elizabeth Warren did it claiming to be American Indian and now she is a U.S. Senator. DAMNIT man, be resourceful!

Get A Job wrote:

9/10 entitlement mentality

0/10 troll effort

This, your lucky you have a roof over your head, do something on your own in life, time to grow up.

fatbody wrote:

What's crazy is that in the US, if you're under a certain age I believe, the financial aid you receive is dependent on your parents' income. So if your parents make a lot, but aren't going to help you out, you're really screwed.

That is correct!

Jeremy R wrote:

Get A Job wrote:

9/10 entitlement mentality

0/10 troll effort

Right on. Get student loans. Don't get a bachelors in fine arts. Get a degree that pays.

I didn't follow any of this "advice." I took out no loans. I got a degree in fine arts, as well as a couple others in the humanities. Yet I'm paid quite well. Imagine that.

You should do what I wish I did when I was around your age and join the military.

Maybe your mother thinks the BMW will be a better long-term investment. She has been alive a long time and probably knows a thing or two.

Listen up buttercup, your parents don't owe you a thing! If you want to go to college figure out a way to pay for it.

1) Did you work hard in school and get good grades? Take honor classes, AP classes? Qualify for an academic scholarship?

2) Have you thought about joining the military? There are good high tech programs especially in the Air Force as well as medical. You would be surprised the opportunities you could take advantage of in the military. Afterwards you can use the GI Bill to help pay for you education. The GI Bill doesn't pay for everything but it does make a huge dent in you educational costs.

3) Athletic scholarship? Well if it's not football or basketball you won't be getting much no matter how good you are.

There were American 20 year olds who to storm beaches at Normandy and Peleliu under machine gun fire . Mommy and daddy weren't around to tuck them in at night between mortar rounds. Grow a pair. Realize that you are lucky not to have to fight off a drugged-up kamikaze in a foxhole with a bowie knife in the dead of night.

Man, did you screw up big time. Not sure how old you were when your parents divorced but if you were under 18 then they would have had to come up with a "parenting plan" as ordered by the court. In addition to Child Support and Child Care that the parents are required to pay, as you get older there would be a section about post secondary education. You could have got both of your parents ordered by the Court to pay a certain percentage of your college expenses. I'm sure it varies by state to state so it's not the same everywhere. Now I'm not sure if that would pay all of it but it would pay a huge amount. Too bad you weren't aware of this a couple of years ago.

I worked, borrowed, got grants and joined the military to get through school. Quit your whining and get to work. You can appreciate help from your parents but they DO NOT owe you a college education.

blamb61 wrote:

I worked, borrowed, got grants and joined the military to get through school. Quit your whining and get to work. You can appreciate help from your parents but they DO NOT owe you a college education.

I joined the Army NG so it didn't take a lot of time from schooling. Work paid for my masters degree.

I think if parents can afford it, they might match a child's contribution into a college savings account. That way, the child has some skin in the game. If the parent can't afford it or doesn't want to, then the kid can still make it as many have.

My parents offered to help me in school and I turned them down (they did help with about 1/2 of the first 3-semesters and then it was 100% me). I hated asking money from them and liked my independence. Looking back, I might should have taken some more of their help and did what I did and I wound't have been as poor as I was while in school.

The Army guard payed off my student loans after school. There are ways to get it done if you want to. Live at home to reduce expenses is an option also.

blamb61 wrote:

I worked, borrowed, got grants and joined the military to get through school. Quit your whining and get to work. You can appreciate help from your parents but they DO NOT owe you a college education.

some people might not want to sign up to fly around the world fighting unjust wars and killing people or getting killed for o good reason. All the people I know that joined the military for the 'benefits' ended up in years of therapy.

millennials whine about a lot, but I'm not going to begrudge them for not wanting to sign up to be a killer in order to get an accounting degree.

derp wrote:

some people might not want to sign up to fly around the world fighting unjust wars and killing people or getting killed for o good reason. All the people I know that joined the military for the 'benefits' ended up in years of therapy.

millennials whine about a lot, but I'm not going to begrudge them for not wanting to sign up to be a killer in order to get an accounting degree.

Everyone I know who's been in the military is messed up.

After seeing so many threads like this on LetsRun, I'm a bit surprised young people even post on here. Essentially every thread started by a young person seeking advice is inundated by middle aged or older men who have some weird chip on their shoulder. These types typically immediately take their frustration out on the younger OP with ad hominem attacks in an attempt to massage their ego. I think this also has the effect of discouraging people from posting supportive things. I imagine that the OP comes away with a sour taste in their mouth every single time. Kinda sad.

(Yet, here I am reading and posting on LetsRun.)

graduated in the last 10 years. Big 10 nationally known school. The private one in the Big Ten. Go Cats!