Mr. Owl wrote:
I would like to be somewhat reasonable. Here are some things:
I'm married, one kid, 30-35 age group at your local turkey trot
- I was married for almost 10 years before having kids. The post-nuptial shutoff is real, and quite a bit more severe after having a baby. It sucks, but I love my wife. I just try to nail her whenever I get the chance. A previous poster was right (a little over the top) about being selfish, you realize how selfish you are once you're married, and you REALLY realize it when you have a kid. Still, I think realizing and accepting that is good for you as a person. That doesn't mean you need to run out and get married and start cranking out babies. I'd never go back though.
^This. I am in a similar situation. I was married for more than 10 years before my wife and I started having kids (we have two so far). While I never experienced the dreaded PNSO, my experience is the same as Mr. Owls.
For people like the OP, it's probably best for them, and for society in general, to NOT marry or procreate.
Sure, it's true that many marriages don't work out and many people are not really very good parents but it's also true that some marriages do work and some people are great parents.
If you don't want to get married then you probably shouldn't.