I tried running with another runner girl - I feel like a creep - Need Etiquette Help!

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Brave, heroic Letsrunner speaks to genuine human girl! Psychological anxiety from casual interaction with opposite sex induces immediate alcoholism! Seeks comfort from Letsrun community with the unhinged neediness of a stage five clinger! LetsRun official slogan continues to be a cruel joke!

Oh god... you're bringing up the fact that I'm clingy too?

You're right about me being clingy but I'm good at emotional severance nowadays. Perhaps you're projecting your own clinginess too.

This goes both ways.

I'm going to buy a bottle of rum soon.

Just Kill Me wrote:

Then what do you talk about?

Whatever she wants to talk about.

When I ran with her, she was mostly silent and I was the one bringing up topics.

But I guess it's because I'm not attractive enough for her to want to talk to me.

I'm drinking vodka right now

Drink 2 bottles. Then maybe this thread will end.

I bet you ran high school T&F, that's why you can't understand. Running and training with other people your age - being able to make friends easily, it must have been nice, mate.

is it considered successful trolling if you make up a story that only gets one person to repeatedly reply and it's you?

Have you tried making her laugh?

Making her laugh combined with the endorphins from exercise will create one hell of an atmosphere for success.

Then end it with we should jog sometime again, until eventually she gives you a hint that she wants to take it further. Otherwise you'll just be a running partner. If not then don't fret, there are many women out there who jog, go on meetup.com or something and find a jogging group. Its not like your in a hicktown with a population of 200 people lol.

She told me she was training for a half-marathon.

And I told her I ran a marathon, and I showed her my tactics.

While we were running, I told her how to succeed:

You'd choose a target, trail behind them, and then SURGE past them. And then you move on to the next person, trail behind them, and surge past them. Then you end up in the top 10 of the group.

I was actively demonstrating how I would run and juke and then speed up and then return to my normal marathon pace. It didn't make her laugh, but it should my youthfulness and vigor.

Am I sounding too weird? I'm a person who is more truthful in communicating through typing rather than words. It's so hard to verbalize them.

I'm also on my 2nd drink of vodka. Tipsy~

I am repeatedly replying because this was a significant event.

I realized what kind of person I am. Entitled, smug, and proud. And after that day, I kept cursing myself for what I became. I hate it so much.

In my mind, I knew that I was lecturing her while we were talking, but I had nothing else to say. This just goes to show that I'm nothing except a runner, and I need to diversify.

Which is why my name is "Just Kill Me" because I'm so stupid.

In the offhand chance that this legit - you suck at talking to women runners.

1) If she's got her headphones in, nod and keep going doing your own thing.

2) If she takes off her headphones to talk to you, then smile and be polite.

3) FFS don't talk about running and tactics and crap like that.

4) If she puts her headphones back on, the conversation's over.

5) Don't tell her about PRs or crap like that. Ever.

6) Always encourage them even if they are running a 5k.

7) What do I talk about with running buddies while running? Anything other than running.

8) Don't drink Four Loko. That's for poor white trash.

Don't worry Karl Hunggus, this really happened to me.

I'm so naive and entitled, and I need the alcohol to understand what kind of person I am. You can understand why I'm drinking, right? It's a gross personality trait and I'm not in tune with socializing.

I will definitely take your advice. Thank you very much.

I'm in my mid twenties. I'm so stupid!

Put the alcohol down.

Read a book. Go to a museum. Get your passport and travel. See a play. Learn a language. Pick up a new hobby that is useless. Grow yourself outside of running.

There's more to life than running. And one day you're going to meet a nice lady during a run who likes stuff AND running.

Another idiot post wrote:

I stopped reading your silly story early on when you said you were running but listening to music.

You, my friend, are NOT a runner.

OP, don't listen to this dumbfuark. Professional runners listen to music all the time. Galen Rupp, Mo Farah, Cam Levins, etc... And they are the best. If they do it, anyone should be just fine doing so, as well.

The real question here is: are you Island or are you Jamin?

No, but I live in the East Coast.

I'm going for another run today - shirtless. This time I have nothing to hide about myself. I also need to get... tanned.

Before I took up running, I was learning sign language and russian and guitar too.

Now all that I am is a runner.

Today I played my old acoustic guitar and played Frank Sinatra's Fly Me to the Moon.

My initial thoughts revolve around "why worry about it?" One can spend too much worrying about things they have little or no control over, or, possibly, not using enough control.

You reference drinking regularly as an escape...short term...maybe...long term...not worth it.

Search inside....what did you do to yourself to prompt such a level of low self-esteem? They way you react to things is more important than what actually happened.

Just because you may have experienced some discomfort, do not let that alter who you are, or alter your behavior, or alter your mental state.

In a very fundamental way, I think you may have enjoyed the 'meeting' a little. Move on, don't worry, and remember the good stuff. Spending energy on negative things and worrying will not bring you peace.

Good luck to you.