Where's Dr. Phil when you need him?? Letsrun.com of course! Am I over-reacting or is my wife messing around on me?

Or this could go poorly if the guy sees it coming and arrives with a bottle of scotch for you that contains date rape drugs, gets you under and takes your wife directly over your face then Roman helmets you and videos it all with your stupid smile.

Some playahs already played the game bro. If your wife is stepping out on you then you ain't got the mojo and will come out in the wrong end of any confrontation.

I think you are overreacting. Let her foam and she'll come back to you soon

Hooper wrote:

She tells me she's just a really nice guy and that he's just "fun" and "easy to talk to".

Translation: you're getting dumped.

Fortunately I haven't heard this in my marriage, but I was dumped a few times before getting married and that sentence means you're getting dumped. Always.

responsibility is universal wrote:

Indeed In Deed wrote:

Only the husband or the wife can be a homewrecker. Others are neither responsible nor capable of either fixing or destroying a marriage - just the husband and wife.

I know that is hard for many to understand - which says something about how many people lack even the most basic reasoning skills.

LOL. You must be young.

Nope, just a lot smarter than you (which admittedly isn't really saying that much).

Oh, but I like the "LOL". Very cute.

Cold reality wrote:

Indeed In Deed wrote:

Try taking a reading comprehension course. It might do you some good.

You mean a course in comprehending your writing? Might do some good.

Suffice to say a marriage with kids is a family and includes more than just a husband and wife. External factors make and break marriages and families all the time. Third parties are relevant and have cause and effect. Believe your own stuff if it makes you feel better, but just cause you believe it doesn't make it true.

Karma comin

Ah, more stupidity. Awesome stuff, sir.

Husband and wife make or break their own marriage. It is as simple as that.

Nobody else is responsible for the choices the husband and wife make. And it is the choices that the husband and wife make that makes or breaks their own marriage.

Sorry, but it really is that simple. Of course, folks who do not want to take responsibility for their own behavior (or accept the behavior of a spouse) invent the bogeyman ("home wrecker"). Very predictable. And incredibly lame.

Indeed In Deed wrote:

responsibility is universal wrote:

LOL. You must be young.

Nope, just a lot smarter than you (which admittedly isn't really saying that much).

Oh, but I like the "LOL". Very cute.

Young AND a virgin.

a junior jamin wrote:

Indeed In Deed wrote:

Nope, just a lot smarter than you (which admittedly isn't really saying that much).

Oh, but I like the "LOL". Very cute.

Young AND a virgin.

0/10

You vs the guy she told you not to worry about

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Glad there are no hard feelings and I am not responsible at all. I feel a little guilty still because I feel like I came between you and your wife. But you open your mouth and then I feel all clean again.

Pretty obvs wrote:

The moment you get to the point you have to check her personal phone or computer it's over. You don't trust her. Even if she isn't cheating, it's OVER.

You're wrong about that. Trust can be rebuilt.

Pretty obvs wrote:

Cheating on your husband is wrong. Checking your wife's phone is wrong. You're both wrong.

You're right about this. Checking the phone is probably forgive able, though. Whether or not the cheating is forgive able depends on him and his wife, they'll have to figure that out.

I may have a win win solution

Given the quantity of responses, this is a subject of interest. I think you have a screenplay on your hands.

Of course the letsrun crowd won't go because they are saving their bottless and cans for the Kara Goucher story and a new pair of shoes.

And more generally men won't go because the "protagonist" is a limp wristed whiner.

But women will love it and they will drag their own limp wrists to the theater with them.

Of course there will have to be some thematic changes. The little woman must be the overworked, under appreciated Dr. Quinn medicine woman, "everywoman." She is dedicated to her patients, works exhausting hours, runs in the predawn darkness before slacker and kids are moving, and then has breakfast ready for all: the perfect mom. The slacker husband is a marathoner wannabe: emaciated, jealous of the wife's success and always complaining about how tired he is from his multiple workouts and self righteous about his refusal to take PEDs

Well the sniveling little weasel is unhappy about his wife's nurturing mission and misreads her concern about her patients as infidelity . . . again. And this time he is going to show the biker/ cuckolder who is the boss.

Of course his plan goes badly. Worse still model wife now experiences an epiphany: he is a loser that is not worthy of her nurturing and he is never going to win an age group prize. simultaneously she recognizes the unique inner beauty (i. e. normal musculature) of the biker.

Wifey and biker ride off happily into sunset canyon with the two kids in a sidecar (wearing helmets and leather).

She gets the biker, you get a screenplay that captures the condition of Everywoman. You gets to travel the Indie circuit probably get more a$$ than a toilet seat at Sundance or wherever the whack job purveyors of culture hang out

Win win

Random guy doing your wife wrote:

Glad there are no hard feelings and I am not responsible at all. I feel a little guilty still because I feel like I came between you and your wife. But you open your mouth and then I feel all clean again.

Correction: I think you came in his wife, or maybe on her, but not between them. Unless OP left out a major detail.

Your wife is at least emotionally involved with this guy. Their relationship is way beyond doc-patient. Have a serious talk with her in as non-confrontational a manner as possible. I hope that you live in a community property state...

POD, just POD wrote:

POD.

POY.

Hooper wrote:

She tells me she's just a really nice guy

OMG your wife is a guy...........

Good Mayo Clinic artilce. I think you can apply to getting a divorce too. It's only with time and apart that heals. Forgiveness and compassion is key only after going through different stages of grieving. I also don't agree that divorced women purposely try to gather other women who are married to split with their spouses. I must be rare b/c I have both married and divorced friends.

I always tell my married friends, I would never wish anyone to go through a divorce unless the other partner was abusive.

My advice, don't judge a person unless you've walked in their shoes...

OP, have a discussion with your wife, let her know how you feel and seek counseling unless she doesn't want to. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work but if you gave 100 percent of your effort to save your marriage then you did all you could. But no reason to beat yourself about it. You have to take care of yourself too.

It has been a long time since I've read a story so good that I just had to post! One of the reasons I can never actually quit this place is, once you get past the poisonous stuff, you can find some damn good stories and some pretty consistently good writing. I personally loved this story. Developed the characters decently and built the plot up well. And threw in some nice twists.

I agree with those who mentioned the motorcycle ride as a point where the story takes an egregious turn towards the bizarre. And I just loved this point in the plot because it really made me take sides between the two characters.

The husband character is not likable whatsoever and I was inclined to root for the wife character...until the motorcycle ride.

Let's lay out the facts provided:

1) She has two children.

2) She already knows motorcycles are dangerous.

3) This. Guy. Has. Recently. Crashed. His. Bike. And. The. Wife. Knows. That.

Doctor mother of two kids plans to ride on the back of a stranger's motorcycle despite knowing motorcycles are dangerous and this man has recently crashed. The subtlety with which you present such an absurd plot point is just wonderfully done.

Anyway, the wife character's intention to go on the motorcycle ride is a greater betrayal of trust than any emotional or physical affair, and that is the point where the husband character needs to draw the line because the wife character dying would have the most significant negative effect on their children.

I suspect the second act of this story will be the hiring of a P.I., discovering the worst depths of her betrayal including a plan to cut you out financially while keeping the daughters and the eventual lawyering up. Act 3 will be the bitter divorce proceedings where the ex-husband wins. Act 4 will be life after divorce where the ex-wife enters an official relationship with her biker paramore, ex-husband goes into teaching full-time while gaining full custody of the daughters, but lives a lonely life. Final act is the reconciliation where the biker paramore either leaves the doctor ex-wife for a better woman or dies in a bike accident, ex-wife comes back on hands and knees, weak male ex-husband accepts her, daughters grow up bitter about love and hateful of their mother.

Indeed In Deed wrote:

a junior jamin wrote:

Young AND a virgin.

0/10

Correct! That is your score. But at least you tried 10 times.