Same holds true with men but harder to tell because men are more apt to lift weights so you look for tricep fat on men...
Same holds true with men but harder to tell because men are more apt to lift weights so you look for tricep fat on men...
My wife turned out like her mom -physically but not mentally , which is a good thing. Both are tall, thin, and fit. I love her mother, but need to tolerate her strongly held views on politics and just about everything else.
My parents are very heavy and their house is always disorganized. I have managed to stay relatively fit and thin due mostly to running. Two of my sisters were thin, active, and attractive in their teens and twenties, but they have become my mom in their thirties and forties. A third sister was always like my mom's sister - staying thin and fit her whole life.
Based on this limited experience, a woman might grow up to look like her mom, but could also take after an aunt.
I guess the big question that I have is, what does your GF think of her mother? Does she wish that she'd manage her weight better /clean up her house, or is she an apologist?
tyosfe wrote:
I guess the big question that I have is, what does your GF think of her mother? Does she wish that she'd manage her weight better /clean up her house, or is she an apologist?
Right answer.
How does the GF manage stress now? Is she emotionally healthy? Good relations with her parents?
what you need to do wrote:
I actively DISLIKE her. I try to be patient and not let it create problems, but unfortunately it definitely adds tension to our marriage. Even when my MIL is blatantly doing or saying the wrong thing, if I say a word my wife will defend her and we'll get into a fight. Only my wife is allowed to say or do anything.
Similar situation here. My wife is great, but both her parents are insufferable, grating idiots. Bizarrely, *she* will rag on them all the time, but as soon as *I* point out that their latest action is stupid, absurd, objectively bad for our kids, etc, then I'm in the doghouse. Very strange.
A nuance to my situation is that her folks have millions, and just about their ONLY redeeming quality is that they are generous towards us with their wealth.
We stand to inherit a good sum from them, whereas I come from nothing. So it's complicated.
tyosfe wrote:
I guess the big question that I have is, what does your GF think of her mother? Does she wish that she'd manage her weight better /clean up her house, or is she an apologist?
great point. sometimes they can act opposite of mom in youth, yet still defend mom. not a good sign for the future.
tyosfe wrote:
I guess the big question that I have is, what does your GF think of her mother? Does she wish that she'd manage her weight better /clean up her house, or is she an apologist?
Thanks for this, it gave me direction. My GF is active and very organized. Her apartment is pretty clean. She visits her mom about every other month and when she comes back from her visit she always seems a bit sad, saying things like, "I cooked some healthy meals for mom, hope she eats them." Or "I cleaned up her place but I'm afraid it won't last long." She definitely worries about her mother's health. That clarified things a lot for me.