Is it creepy to message a girl you've never talked to on FB?

Murder Dubs wrote:

The Answer: You are sub-20 (years of age) so it simply does not matter what you do. It will not lead to any lasting bonds, no matter your course of action. Nothing will come of it that you care about after you've graduated from high school/college/Pizza Hut.

So do whatever the hell you do or do not want to do.

Fair enough.

But don't break the law either, or do anything violent. You're young so why destroy your life like an arsonist to your own being? In the local news is a story of a young buck 20 year old who basically went on an armed robbery spree, which had started out as knuckleheaded mischief and eventually escalated into shooting at the police. The dude is charged now with attempted homicide and will be fortunate to get out of jail when he is old and gray. wtf! Take it from an older young guy like myself, if you are 19 or 20 you have quite a few years ahead of you. Experiment but don't bet the house or all your cards. Don't be afraid to waste a few years either on hard work and Conventionalism and kissing butt. Whatever you do, though, don't be like the dude I just mentioned: throwing away your life before you even had a chance to taste adulthood.

I've trolled women on fb just randomly adding n msgi g them then simply talking to them n they are like who are u but then they just talk I don't even give them straight answers then they stop asking

girl here, do you have any comments about this sort of approach?http://www.ebaumsworld.com/videos/creepy-joe-bidens-greatest-hits/85167872/

girl here wrote:

As a girl who's gotten asked out via Facebook Messenger, don't do it.

I wouldn't want to go out with someone who didn't have the balls to go up to me in person and say hi. Seriously, just go up to her and introduce yourself.

There is no non-creepy way of messaging someone you don't know and saying "hi, I've seen you around and think you're really cute".

Wow that was really uncomfortable to watch.

and to think, that is our VP...

Taylorny129041 wrote:

talk to her first. messaging her on FB is creepy.

I think it's creepy, at least depending on context. It does happen often to attractive girls on FB - look at all the creepy things guys post on girls' Instagram photos. It's not something I would ever do if I didn't have any connection to the person - although friending someone who's in your university classes and then casually messaging them isn't so bad.

I do a lot of online dating and do pretty well with attractive girls, both online and in person, but I never find the need to send creepy messages or hound girls at bars who aren't giving some indication they want to be approached. I can basically guarantee that the guys who find the need to message random girls on FB are not exactly cream of the crop - if you were, you would have better options, and most girls will put you in the "loser" bucket if you do that. I'm not saying it won't pan out once in a blue moon, especially if you are attractive/funny, but you may as well post an ad on Craigslist as your odds there are just about as good.

If a girl messaged me sight unseen, "hi, I've seen you around and think you're really cute" that would not be creepy at all to me. I'd feel great, even if I had no interest in her (that has happened to me maybe once and I think I'm exaggerating it) But obviously the genders look at the world different. What about this?

What if you were at a bar and two really hot girls asked you to poach a hot tub at one of the local resorts in town, We do, they strip down until they're almost naked. You become super attracted to both of them, but they both have boyfriends. You don't know if you'll see them for awhile afterwards, but you were friends on facebook before all this happened. Message or no message?

I say go for it. That was what facebook was originally intended for.

nerd wrote:

I say go for it. That was what facebook was originally intended for.

Yeah go 4 it.

Check with Jamin first! Make sure you have his approval. Remember, you don't get a second chance to make a first impression.

Just remember that messages from people that you aren't friends with automatically go in to the "other" inbox. She may or may not check that inbox often, if at all. I messaged a girl I actually had met in person but was not friends with online and she still hasn't read the message.

Yes, it is creepy. But what do you have to lose?

I saw a beautiful girl at college and I knew our paths would never cross. Facebook messaged her and she replied. Saw each other a few weeks later on campus and had a little chat.

2 kids and 8 years of marriage later I'm glad I took a "creepy" risk!

The truth is that she will say you're creepy if she doesn't think you are cute. If she likes you, she will say yes. Girls use the word creepy now to define any straight male that they don't like making a move of any kind. That being said, It's all how you 'ask her out'. I wouldn't ask her out off the bat. I'd start an innocuous conversation for 2-3 weeks. Start chatting with her about a mutual friend or a mutual incident that you both know about. If that goes well and she puts time in her responses then you can ask "got any big plans this weekend?" If she says "not really", then ask her someplace fun with others and if she says "maybe" or "sure" tell her you will text her if she wants and she will give you her # if she's cool with it.You want to come off as if you aren't too scared to ask her out in person but that you honestly just wanted to chat about something or whatever and facebook was just a convenient place to do so. It's a way to feel each other out and see if there is interest.

Chall Phelimo? wrote:

I'm really tempted to, she's super cute and I've seen her around so often. Bad idea?