Ok. Throwaway account.
I feel like I might be a problem drinker.
Consistently, since age 15 (I am 22), I have embarrassed myself in social situations where drink was involved.
Age 15/16 = got very drunk at a party, threw up at home (my mother dealt with it), and destroyed a new phone washing my jeans, which had vomit on them. In my drunken state, I'd forgotten they had my phone in my pocket.
Have been drink at almost every party I have gone to.
The worst thing I did drunk, I am too ashamed to say even anonymously. It, somehow, had no lasting effects, and everyone involved are now close friends - but that is their choice. My actions could, and perhaps should, have inspired a different response.
More recently (age 22!! For Christ's sake!!) I came back from a night out with friends. I had not drank for months, which is very common for me. I was visiting my parents. I was WRECKED. I felt sober, coherent. My dad told me, the next day, that he couldn't understand anything I said, and that I'd given him a fright he wouldn't get over for a long time.
Tonight, I was at a social for work. Effortlessly, I hadn't drank for months. There was booze, and everyone else drank a lot (it's that kind of job). I was reserved, to the point others were good-naturedly commenting on it. I ended up challenging my superior to downing a pint, just to match the atmosphere. I threw up in the toilet as a result (the pint legitimately hit me the wrong way), although I feel people believed me when I said I hadn't thrown up, I just headed to the loos because the pint hit me the wrong way, and I wanted to make sure I was OK. I continued to drink, but at that point, it went from being CAREFUL to not knowing how much I had drank at any given point.
Now, I'm not too worried about tonight. Many people in my job drink heavily, and me and my superior get on very well - and he was absent for the latter part of the night anyway. It's not a career job anyway, and I imagine no effect will be had.
HOWEVER, it speaks to what I hoped was false. No matter the circumstances, no matter how long I have abstained from drink (and no matter how easy I have found this), when there is booze, I will drink too much, without any sense of control, and humiliate myself. There are more stories I could tell you.
I have no compulsion to drink, on a regular day. But, if it's a situation where booze is there...
I think I should go teetotal. But my best friends are all hefty drinkers, and I love them. I don't want to lose them. We have been close for years. For full disclosure, I don't have the same openness I once had - I don't think I will make friends like this again. But I know there will be the same pressure to drink - they almost force booze down your throat whenever I see them.
This is the only area of my life I must improve. I've been successful otherwise. What should I do?