dbsquirt21 wrote:
it may be illegal to do the do based on your state, and is severely looked down upon by others.
Which state? Why is dating an adult woman so looked down on? I mean, she can vote, serve her country in the military, and run for many elected offices, I don't see why she can't date a 27 year old. Also, those who object probably wouldn't be saying the same thing if the genders were reversed.
OP, internet message board posters have no right to regulate your relationships.
I dated a couple college freshman-sophs when I was starting grad school at 24-25. It was a little odd and the relationships didn't get very far. I went to a concert with one and stayed at her parent's place, on the couch. They were really nice and wanted me to spend another night! Dad was an airline pilot and they lived in Boulder. Liberal town, liberal times I guess.
One gave her number, and that enraged her older brother, so I left the party soon after. I gave a call the next morning and talked for 10 minutes or so, and asked her to brunch but she declined.
The real question
Star wrote:
Society doesn't approve.
I don´t know about America but in my country an 18 year old is legally an adult and is allowed to vote and be a member of the parliament.
Really?! wrote:
"Life experience" does not equal maturity. Read the post. "Responsible 27 year old" is a key phrase.
An 18 year old's brain and decision making is not fully developed. Taking advantage of that is ill advised and for some, unethical.
You are moving goal posts by using the phrase "responsible 27 yr old". Every 27 yr old is not responsible just like every 18 yr old is not irresponsible. Also, a 27 yr old's brain/decision-making isn't necessarily fully developed just like an 18 yr old's brain/decision-making isn't necessarily undeveloped.
I also did not say that life experience equals maturity. You're the one that needs to read the post. I said both life experience and maturity, but you decided to ignore the life experience part.
Everyone is different. Not every 18 or 27 yr old can run the same mile time. Not every 18 or 27 yr old can do advanced calculus.
Bamf wrote:
Lol at the rich white kid from the suburbs who thinks mommy and daddy paying for you to take a gap year and travel to Europe makes you cultured instead of just spoiled. Travel is a privilege of the rich, not a life changing experience.
You live in a very small perspective. Traveling is relatively cheap and is something that any middle class family can do. Especially if it is in Europe, the military, or the result of job placement. I never said it was a life changing experience. I said life experience.
Soul Vaccinator wrote:
Not a big deal. My 15 yo daughter is dating a 30 yo guy. They aren't having sex, fortunately
Haha, yeah, I'm sure.
Just fyi, everyone, I have also now had a somewhat similar experience with a 44yo woman. We sat next to each other at a coffee shop (not the one with the 18yo), and ended up talking for 2 hours, exchanged numbers and agreed to meet up sometime soon. That's a 17-year age difference. God, being a man in his late 20s is awesome.
you like know women ? cool
Exacz wrote:
Really?! wrote:"Life experience" does not equal maturity. Read the post. "Responsible 27 year old" is a key phrase.
An 18 year old's brain and decision making is not fully developed. Taking advantage of that is ill advised and for some, unethical.
You are moving goal posts by using the phrase "responsible 27 yr old". Every 27 yr old is not responsible just like every 18 yr old is not irresponsible. Also, a 27 yr old's brain/decision-making isn't necessarily fully developed just like an 18 yr old's brain/decision-making isn't necessarily undeveloped.
I also did not say that life experience equals maturity. You're the one that needs to read the post. I said both life experience and maturity, but you decided to ignore the life experience part.
Everyone is different. Not every 18 or 27 yr old can run the same mile time. Not every 18 or 27 yr old can do advanced calculus.
You moved the goalposts. You said experience and age are independent. Obviously they are statistically dependent on each other even if there's plenty of variance.
A responsible 27+-year-old with a college degree and 5 years working full time and the wisdom that generally comes with it, has more life experience than ALL American 18-year-olds, ZERO exceptions, no matter how many Eurotrips their parents took them on. That is relevant to the question.
ManW wrote:
What are your thoughts on all of this?
Sounds like a trap. Prepare to give away 50% of your gross income over the next 18 years. At least she'll be a young, hot, single grandma at 40.
I don't think its wrong at all. Again though, there is the maturity gap, and her wanting to do things that you as an older guy might not want to because you've gotten past that stage in your life (rock concerts, late night drinking, etc).
But, if you just want her for sex, admit it. Its legal and who cares. A serious relationship might be hard to develop because of the stuff I mentioned above. Sex is only 10% of a relationship.
HardLoper wrote:
A responsible 27+-year-old with a college degree and 5 years working full time and the wisdom that generally comes with it, has more life experience than ALL American 18-year-olds, ZERO exceptions, no matter how many Eurotrips their parents took them on. That is relevant to the question.
I could give you so many scenarios where your "ZERO exception" don't apply...
This troll post gets repeated every couple weeks but anyway...
I have no idea why any 27 guy would want to date an 18 year old. Have you heard an 18 yr old girl talk? Do you see what they post on Facebook? Maybe I'm some pompous a$shole, but I'm 21 and I don't want to date girls that young. A first semester college freshman is still mentally a child. There's something wrong with you if you want to date that at 27.
LRC Chick wrote:
dbsquirt21 wrote:it may be illegal to do the do based on your state, and is severely looked down upon by others.
Which state? Why is dating an adult woman so looked down on? I mean, she can vote, serve her country in the military, and run for many elected offices, I don't see why she can't date a 27 year old. Also, those who object probably wouldn't be saying the same thing if the genders were reversed.
OP, internet message board posters have no right to regulate your relationships.
Calm down, nobody is "regulating" anyone.
Sounds like you like older guys, though. Hot.
A lot of jealousy in this thread.
Live it up, from a 40-something that passed up on some experiences I'd like to have back due to being 'responsible'.
voiceofreason wrote:
A lot of jealousy in this thread.
Live it up, from a 40-something that passed up on some experiences I'd like to have back due to being 'responsible'.
heelll yeah.
i don't recall the original post saying he was going to marry the girl
when i was 33 i dated a 20 year old for awhile. she was just stunningly beautiful and she obviously liked me and i couldn't resist. i had a whole lot of fun for the next couple years before it ran its course. now it is nearly 20 years later and we're both happily married to other people and remain friends.
i wish that for the original poster...especially if the girl is hot.
well,. wrote:
Star wrote:Society doesn't approve.
I don´t know about America but in my country an 18 year old is legally an adult and is allowed to vote and be a member of the parliament.
18 year olds in America cannot be a member of the parliament, unless it is funkadelic.
But they do have the legal right to date anyone their age or older.
What society accepts is different than what is legal.
If this is wrong I don't know what's right
You guys surely know the 'golden rule' for a happy relationship? Divide by 2 and add 7. 20.5yrs; we'll let you off!!