According to your post, you are currently not with either of these girls. You should try to land at least one of them before you start acting like you have this huge decision to make.
According to your post, you are currently not with either of these girls. You should try to land at least one of them before you start acting like you have this huge decision to make.
You should pick Jamina.
Look at their mothers. That is what you'll be married to in 22 years. Now choose.
tough situation wrote:
I've become good friends with Girl A. I think I could possibly marry her.
On what basis? You aren't in a relationship.
I had a similar situation, other than the two women weren't in the same social circle.
I followed my penis, went after the "hotter" one. Had some fun, thought she was "fine", etc. Well, I figured out she was bat sh!t crazy three months later.
Went back to Girl A, married her 8+ years ago, 2 kids - happy as can be.
I'd still vote go for the Chick B. If not, you might always regret not doing it. If Chick A is supposed to be for you, it'll work out eventually.
That's assuming either chick has any interest in you whatsoever. Worst case, chick b shoots you down, makes a big deal out of it to chick a, and then she shoots you down too. Then you move out of town and find a new circle of friends to exploit.
This is like voting for the candidate that is least bad rather than the one you actually want. Sounds like neither are idea. Just pick one or two to try dating. Odds are neither are wife material if you aren't clearly compelled to go after one over the other.
Lucky Bass-Turd wrote:
I had a similar situation, other than the two women weren't in the same social circle.
I'd still vote go for the Chick B. If not, you might always regret not doing it. If Chick A is supposed to be for you, it'll work out eventually.
This is what I would do.
Pursue both of them, but don't be exclusive with either of them, long term anyway, until it works out that way.
Maybe you can have your cake and eat it, too. Propose a 3-way.
Have not had a 3-Way in 15+ years
Steaming spaghetti covered with our secret recipe chili, topped with a mound of shredded cheddar cheese
tough situation wrote:
Why do I have to ask wrote:Pics?
Both girls are attractive and will likely remain attractive for quite some time given they are both health conscious and enjoy exercising.
They won't stay that way once they get married.
I disagree with this guy. You don't know for sure what the future holds for looks, but you can usually tell. If they look younger than their age now, that's a good sign (in my case I guessed my wife to be 10 years younger than she was when I met her). You can look at their family and sometimes infer some of what the future holds (in my case the wife has 1 thin cute sister, and 2 not so thin sisters. Mom isn't thin either. I lucked out here).My wife has had two babies and is in better shape than when we met. Depends if they care about themselves or not. A little vanity is a good thing, IMO.
Has life experience wrote:
tough situation wrote:Both girls are attractive and will likely remain attractive for quite some time given they are both health conscious and enjoy exercising.
They won't stay that way once they get married.
Have you kissed either of them yet?
you know what to do ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Lucky Bass-Turd wrote:
I disagree with this guy. You don't know for sure what the future holds for looks, but you can usually tell. If they look younger than their age now, that's a good sign (in my case I guessed my wife to be 10 years younger than she was when I met her). You can look at their family and sometimes infer some of what the future holds (in my case the wife has 1 thin cute sister, and 2 not so thin sisters. Mom isn't thin either. I lucked out here).
My wife has had two babies and is in better shape than when we met. Depends if they care about themselves or not. A little vanity is a good thing, IMO.
Has life experience wrote:They won't stay that way once they get married.
Girl A is highly active. She does all kinds of sports and active recreation just because she enjoys it. The only way she'll get fat is if she becomes paralyzed or something.
Girl B is fairly active but not nearly to the extent as Girl A. However, she looks freakin great for her age (she is 30 and could pass for 25 easily), and seems to have a great body and face fairly naturally. I think she would be more likely to gain weight later on, but I seriously doubt she'd ever get fat, at least not for 20 years.
[quote]Lucky Bass-Turd wrote: A little vanity is a good thing, IMO.
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That is good to hear.
Then I've started my daughter off on the right track. I bought her a little vanity for her birthday.
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"How to navigate this situation?"
1) STFU
2) See step 1)
Ohio Bowling wrote:
Look at their mothers. That is what you'll be married to in 22 years. Now choose.
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Well played sir!
ialso wrote:
[quote]Lucky Bass-Turd wrote: A little vanity is a good thing, IMO.
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That is good to hear.
Then I've started my daughter off on the right track. I bought her a little vanity for her birthday.
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wi9jw wrote:
Do neither until you figure it out.
Option C: none of the above
You're talking about them as if it's a given that they're interested in you. Drop the arrogance and see if, in fact, you're friend-zoned.
