This is a kind of serious question, and I was hesitant about posting it here given letsrun's colorful reputation. But the forum here also has just about the widest range of people representing practically every skill level of competition, so I have hopes for some interesting insights.
Watching the Prefontaine Classic, watching all the big meets on TV or in person, is something which lately has been an increasing source of sadness for me.
Because I see athletes doing magnificent things, like Mary Cain at such a young age.
I feel sad because I aspired to be that kind of kid. I worked hard in college, but got laid up with injury after injury, setting aside one dream after another, leaving high school having never won an individual medal, never scored points, never really having a proud moment as a runner.
I was disappointed too because my dad was the coach and I so wanted to be good for him, and when I wasn't, when I sucked race after race, I was embarassed for him.
I kept on running, nursing dreams that I could be a late bloomer like Dick Beardsley or Brian Sell. That I still had a shot as a 10K or a marathoner. Again, more injuries.
I'm 29, and while I know, logically, that is so very young, I still feel so terribly old. I feel ashamed every race I run, because I'm not better and faster. I feel embarassed to run with the people I do, because they are so much better than me; I feel more like a groupie or a hanger on than an equal.
A friend of mine from the college days, gave up running and even took up smoking. His old PRs were in the 16s and the 1:17s for the 5K and half, respectively. 9 months ago he resolved to clean up and get healthy again, resumed running. Now he's a 1:12 half, a 15:04 5K and a 19:19 4 mile. THAT is talent.
Which I don't have. And that's just it. Some people just have IT, like my friend, like Rupp or Cain. And this disappointment with my own running bleeds over to every aspect of my life as I draw comparisons and wonder why I've not found a girlfriend, why I'm not earning more money, why I've not found more success in my profession despite all my struggle and hard work in both those areas. I wonder, does it come down to either you have it or you don't? If it hasn't happened already, will it ever?
And that's what really scares me. I feel in me this incredible untapped potential, potential to do something really well, do something really special and good that could make people happy and inspire, and make up for all the failure in my life up to now. But what if my potential is to just be utterly average? What if it's not for me to ever achieve anything commensurate to the degree of commitment and time and effort I put into the process?
No doubt many of you out there have dealt with disappointments yourself as runners. How have you coped and moved on tried to not let it affect your day to day life like it has been for me?