Former Elite From Your Era wrote:
Dear Suzy,
You've done nothing wrong.
You were born into a society that sometimes places heavy and impossible expectations on people.
You were also born into a society that places heavy and pressurizing stereotypes on females.
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Just own up, that you loved it, the clock was ticking towards 50, and it was the last chance you had to pursue this fantasy...something women have done for centuries...etc. etc. etc.
BTW, for those that do not know "sex positive" is a whole field of attitudes, new thought, new philosophy, new morals regarding sex in the modern age.
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Just because you are a bible thumper, or grew up someplace provincial doesn't mean these things aren't going on.
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There are a number of famous people in business and pro sports in the bay area that have occasionally talked openly about being in the play party lifestyle.
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The issues to work out with her family are issues that can be worked out. She'll have options here, and the child can and should be protected from a school where any bullying or shaming would go on, i.e. home schooling. And the child's society will grow up more tolerant than the society of most of the old farts on this board. (My experience has been that the younger the woman I have dated, the more open, free, healthy, and unhung up about sex they. Better in bed subsequently).
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There is a whole wide world out there that is very different than the world some of you live in...and that doesn't make it wrong.