Is he using me?????????????

How long have you been together?

Maybe he is just taking you for granted.

I would suggest backing off. Start making plans with your friends and doing your own thing more and not worry about what he is doing all the time. If he starts making more of an effort, than yes he probably does care but if he just lets you go and does not seem too concerned that you are becoming more independant (and not so dependant on him), than yes you probably are right he is using you.

I would trust your friends.

been with him 8 months (on and off) - everytime i get with another guy, or run good, or do well at stuff he turns on the charms so i go back to him... know i shouldnt....

Thanks for the reply track some sound advice :-)

He doesnt seem like a nice guy, he either doesnt appreciate you or is real dumb - go find yourself a charming chappy - tthen he'll realise what a creep he's been, be real nice to you only this time he wont get what he wants! good luck chick

I agree, you sound like a good chick shame there arent more of you about! mr right is out there somewhere and when you find him you'll realise that there are some of us guys out there who are decent and respect you chicks! especially if they're hot!!

Sounds to me like he he takes you for granted and only realises how good you are when he cant have you and knows he wont get any better. In my opinion i say lose him!! You need someone who will treat you like the perfect chick (as it sounds like you are one) - he hasnt bought you flowers in 8 months of being together - man he is tight and not worth the hassle! he might be an alright guy - maybe he hasnt had much experience in a relationship - were you his first girlfriend? how old r u both!!

Wish you luck - i agree with the others - you sound sweet and make sure you pick up a guy who knows that and makes you feel good!!!

If he cared for you enough he should have or would have let you know. I know im lucky to have such a great girlfriend and i like to let her know buy sending her flowers or just a note not just on a special occassion but anyday. You have great friends so you should trust them, they know you best

Sounds like he is too busy for you...his best friend is a women..??...Im leary...you should move on

thanks for your comments - sounds as though i should lose him! his best friend is a women but i know shes in a pretty serious relationship...

Sounds like he is, get out whilst you can.

It is still a little odd...Dump him ,he is using you...as a runner you dont have to put up with that...I am assuming your fit...plenty of guys would love to have a nice fit ,healthy chick...and they would act like it so you wouldnt have to wonder

maybe you should try calling him more often--like multiple times a day, and just stop by unanounced every now and then.

you could introduce yourself to his friends and family and ask him about how many kids he wants to have and where he sees the both of you going.

you could also start leaving your clothes and possessions at his house for when you stay overnight.

maybe ask him for a key to his place, guys love that.

The guy's a jerk, let him go - you'll have plenty of male offers, no one would turn down a running chick. Go out with your friends, have a good time and meet loads of new guys.

trying talking with him once be, be straight, you never know things might work out. If you keep going back to him you must have a pretty strong feeling for him.

Thats terrible advice..never ask a person that sort of thing..actions proof everything...words mean nothing..move on Angel..call me at home if you need anymore advice

I think this proves the theory that chicks dig guys that treat them like shit. I suppose I should learn to do that.

I have tried talking with him - a lot - he always assures me that he cares for me - but i would like actions!!!!! i agree words havent meant much in our relationship.. Thanks hugh your a legend, any more advise would be appreciated!

u mean you like to be treated like shit - hope you pick a girl that isnt half decent, no one deserves people like you

im unsure on this one - my girl's been ill recently and i went round to see her and cheer her up - if he didnt even call you it was probably because he knew he wouldnt be getting any of it!!!!!! u dont need someone who is going to pick and choose when and if he wants to be with you. You need someone who will come visit you no matter what and treat you with the love and respect you rightly deserve - there is someone out there who will - be patient!