Average_Joe wrote:
As I understand it there are states that simply have an automatic 50% division, no?
just to reinforce my earlier point, say you are informed about the divorce laws in massachusetts and get married (without a prenup) and live there early on in your marriage. you and your spouse may well have intentionally defaulted to the state law rules governing distribution of assets upon divorce because you thought they were fair and appropriate for your pre-marriage life situation. however, if you move to another state, say california or another community property state, the distribution of assets upon divorce could be very different.
a pre-nup can avoid that messiness and confusion, even without materially altering the original distribution under massachusetts law. you could even just copy that distribution into an agreement and sign it.
my point is, if your sense of a just distribution would be everything accumulated after marriage split 50/50, it may be a good idea to write that up and sign it. if you think it should be 50/50 of everything, pre and post marriage, if the marriage lasts, say, 10 years, then write that up and sign it. a pre-nup doesn't need to protect one person from another. it can simply be a reflection of the values of the two people getting married.
although i must say that i also recognize that standing to gain or lose a certain amount upon a divorce could influence the eventual choice of divorcing or sticking it out. and any provision relating to punishing the person who asks for the divorce could lead to some very unhappy years together. so i'm not suggesting that pre-nups have a magical ability to solve all problems.