Tony wrote:
dotato wrote:
What the hell is wrong with me?
I could not state this any more clearly. What the hell IS wrong with you? I'm married, have a kid and another on the way, too. Do I think about old gfs? Sure, we all do. Maybe even a little fantasy once in a while. I treated a couple of them like sh!t too, even one I could have seen myself with later on in life if I wasn't such a selfish dick back then. Think of her a lot. But it's gone. She's surely moved on. Don't let YOUR guilt interfere with her life. Just go have a wank.
+1
My husband’s old gf from college did this. They had parted on friendly terms back then, 20plus years ago. He was a total gentleman about it when she reached out and she framed the whole exchange as a-what-small-world thing. They’re in the same profession, sort of. Still, he was a bit puzzled. Neither one of us said out loud that it was a bit sadsack’ey, but I thought it was.
Here’s the thing: you reach out to her and she may be married and she’ll share it with her husband. He’s going to google you. You’ll google him. Even though you’re not a potbellied loser, you’ll feel silly if he’s better looking and on the cover of Forbes. He won’t say it to her, but he’ll think you’re sadsack’ey anyway.
Have a cold one instead.