Calling the old Girl Friend

True story. So I worked in West Palm back around 1994-1998. I worked with this very very cute little Puerto Rican girl and we started messing around although she was married to some cop up around NYC. So I start hitting this thing on a regular basis for several weeks and then all of a sudden this cop shows up and takes her to Paris for 2 weeks. Well they mend things up and she quits the job and I dont hear from her for several years. I move back home get something started with another Florida girl and we break up after 2 years because she wouldnt quit smoking but she had really really good pie. I hire US Search and it costs me like $70 and I find out every girl in Florida with her last name. I do the process of elimination and write the one girl that could be the one although she's moved and living near Gainesville. So I'm playing golf and my phone rings and it's her. About an hor later I'm on my way to see her. Nice dinner,a little wine,lots of laughs and a couple of hours late I got my face in her ass. That lasted a few months and then it got just too far to drive. We're still friends to this day.

thats why they call him slick.

Head scratcher wrote:

insane nailed it. This is major league trolling. I just can't believe letsrunner's keep falling for this stuff.

i am always amazed at that too.

no douglas burke was ever in prison in the 90s.

since he invited us to google and check it out i did.

troll.

douglas burke wrote:

that is how i got my felony, ..., the guidelines for my crime was 0-6 month's, but due to my long history of mental problems they gave me an upward departure to a year. .

btw, another way we know you are a troll is that you could get a DOWNWARD departure from the sentencing guidelines for mental illness, not an upward departure.

Three years fter breaking up with my first true love, I got back in touch with her. Two years later, we married. We now have two kids and we consider ourselves very lucky every day.

Funny - I guess I got lucky when I called my old girlfriend. Was separated from my wife of four years at the time.

Old HS girlfriend and I hooked up numerous times - she actually improved her appearance a lot (it had been 10 years since we had seen each other)...went from being a "tomboy" type runner-girl to a somewhat fakey girly girl thing- high heels, etc.

Took her on a few trips with me - was great.

Wife and I back together, she's aware of what happened, and we socialize together a lot now.

Dude, I will pile on with those tellng you NOT to contact her. The reasons:

1) Maybe she's moved on and couldn't care less to hear from you.

2) Maybe it will creep her out (as in thinking you're obsessed) if you contact her after 15 years. That's not fair to her.

3) Maybe she will just be sad (if she's still alone and dreaming about you) that you're married and she can't have you -- again, not fair to her.

4) Maybe she's still hot for you and suggests you two meet at a hotel -- BAD. Perhaps even you want this deep down (or not so deep down). But it's a bad way to go brother and ultimately will end your marriage.

5) Let's say you contact her and she's got a boy friend or a husband but she's completely open to being friends with you now. What will your wife think about that? NOT a good plan.

As we get later into adulthood, it's easy to look back and wish we did something different. I went out on ONE date with this girl in high school -- she was a real sweetheart, but I was just taking her out on one date. So, I pick her up from her house and her dad says, "Guess we'll be seeing a lot of you from now on." WOAH! Slow down brother! I like your daughter, but I didn't sign on for anything other than taking her out on this one date. I never asked her out again. I did that because I was an immature teenager who didn't know any better -- the dad just scared me away. I'd love for her to know that it had nothing to do with her, but she's married now and has a family of her own. It all worked out in my case for the best though as The Lovely Mrs. Flagpole Willy is the right wife for me.

DO NOT CALL THAT WOMAN!!!

letmehelpyouout wrote:

with 2/3 of americans being overweight - and half of those being obese. chances are she has squirted out a few kids, is overweight and has a butt full of cellulite. if you are going to lose it all, lose it all for a tight and firm 18yo babysitter, but not some fat old skank that you have been fantasizing about for nearly 2 decades.

You got that right! If you cheat, make it worth it. Go for a hot hot younger woman. That way your buddies will feel sorry you got caught, but they will understand.

If you "trade down" you look like an idiot.

You guys remember the scene in the movie "There's something about Mary" where the Ben Stiller character is talking to the detective who had just found the old girlfriend? He asks the detective (Matt Dillon)what she looks like and he says "oh, she's about a deuce, deuce and a half". Of course this wasn't true because the detective wanted her for himself.

I dated a girl (hot at the time)in High School for a while and a little bit while we were at different colleges. After we both graduated from college, we dated again but she never really wanted to get serious. She always gave me the impression (without saying so)that I was out of her league; a hot girl like her wasn't going to get serious with a skinny nerd like me.

Anyway, I finally broke up with her for good and got married to a wonderful lady and we've been happily married for 15 years. I never really gave much thought to the old girlfriend but she still lives near my hometown and last year a friend of mine ran into her. I naturally asked how she looked. Being very polite, he just said that she was "heavy". I just smiled and thought to myself how lucky I was not being married to her.

Here's some advice: if you're really curious about this woman, try and be very subtle or discrete about it. Have a friend run into her or if you know where she lives maybe you could just "happen to run into her somewhere". This will satisfy your curiousity without her thinking you're stalking her.

pronounce it: da TAY toe or da TAT oh ?

Two things to clarify,

1. There was never anything sexual about my thoughts of contacting her.

2. Contacting her was purely about reconciliation.

I wont bore you with details, but making amends for past mistakes is an honorable trait. Two books which speak to it are the Bible and The Big Book, granted both are foundationaly spiritual, but sage advice nonetheless.

The fact that she is a she, and me a he in a committed relationship only comlicates details to a point in fact of telling another person, "I'm sorry" and that is all.

Its amazing that we as people can't take something for what it is - that being an honest admission by one person of being an ass to another - and see it as being intrinsicly beneficial.

I once heard that forgiveness isn't about forgetting (the notion that someone *forgets* another is ridiculous and false on its face, no matter how psychologically buried it may be), but forgivenesss is about freedom. I feel in some ways, making amends is about releasing someone else.

But, all that being said, its an old girl friend. I'm in a committed relationship with my wife, its messy on many fronts. What I will say is the reverse has happened. My wife did have contact with an old boyfried, and they did talk for a while and figure out what happened. I never once felt threatened by it.

I think the advice that it would be out of left field FOR HER is spot on, as I said earlier, and I respect that.

Well, almost no matter how you look at it, it's not a good idea to contact her. One thing that could unintentionaly happen is that if you call her to say you're "sorry", even though you intend it to be completely an honorable thing to do, she might have the feeling that "what, are you feeling sorry for me or something? Are you saying that I'm some miserable trembling twig who has been dwelling on how we left things? Get over yourself you schmuck!" Not sure that she would have that reaction, but even a reasonable person might feel like that.

I agree with you that making amends is pretty much never a bad thing, but when you are making amends with someone whom you no longer have ANY kind of relationship, it just seems like it's not necessary...ESPECIALLY when that person is an old girlfriend and you're now married.

I just can't think of ANY good reason whatsoever to contact her.

My Name Is Earl...[cue to music]

The truth is...he wanted to bone his old girl and secretly so do you. That said, as been advised, go have a good wank!By the way I am sure your wife would flip if she found out you are wanting to hook up with her again.

return to sender wrote:

I was in almost the exact same situation.

I realized the first thing about my old girfriend which was...this was my first true love. Why else would I think of her and not any of the others.

Yeah, I ended it poorly when I should not have.

So I spent a day googling this old flame and finally found her. That night walking home from the train I called her. I was nervous as hell.

She was shocked but thrilled I called. We caught up with where we are in life and spoke thru email a bunch over the next few weeks. I told her I was sorry about the way things ended but we both seemed happy in our lives now.

I feel huge burden has been lifted from my shoulders.

She is OK

I am OK.

Life goes on.

Shouldn't you spell it the correct way: D-O-T-A-T-O-E?

try it again when i put my name douglas burke in, it said released july 8th 1997, my prison # was 06219-112, i am now 43, look it up again there are 4 douglas burke's in there, check again, i will not have my street cred ruined, play it again sam, the first time did not work for me either.

they have me listed as douglas j burke

sam w. look it up again.

?!??!?!?!?!? wrote:

god your retarted

So, then, you want to call her because of your own selfishness. If an an old boyfriend called me to say "sorry" I'd be insulted for him to think that there's something to be sorry for. All's fair in love and war...

someone please check the link again my name douglas burke is one of 4 douglas burke's on the link i am not a troll.