summer break-ups

Sorry, dude, but your "immediate situation" definitely calls for you to "bang every chick you can."

What else are you going to do? Sit around and allow this broad to manipulate your life from afar? Oh, wait, you're already doing that.

Seriously, if you don't want to take it all the way, then don't. But for crying-out-loud, get out there and play the field. After all, you know what she's doing? She's laying around the pool all day in a bikini, loving the fact that she can have guys admiring her without the albatross of a boyfriend to impede the ogle fest.

Geez, grow a pair, will ya?

sounds like she wants to f*** other guys....

Ask her, "Are we really broken up?" Tell her you have to know because if you are then you're going to ask other girls out and have fun. If you feel like it, let her know that you'd be interested in getting back together but let her know that she can't just break up and have you to fall back on in a few months. In other words, make it clear that the reality of a break up is that you are going to look for other girls, this will either make her reconsider in which case you get back together with a girl you really seem to like, or you will be told in no uncertain terms that it's all over which will make it easier to move on. I guess this could also lead to a waffling response from her about how she might want to get back together with you but would have to be in the same place, which would be her way of telling you that she likes strining you along. If that's the case then you are better off moving on.

Good luck, don't spend the summer as a sad 21 year old, that's a total waste of youth.

I know exactly what you're talking about. My girlfriend was having serious doubts about the summer when college was coming to an end, partly because we spent so much time together at school and she thought it would be really hard to all of a sudden not see me. She also feared I would cheat on her, but I loved her too much to do that to her. Still, she had her doubts because she didn't know what I'd be doing at home. I understood where she was coming from, because girls are weak, and have a huge fear of the unknown, because they what they don't know, their mind will create. Girls are insecure, and any lack of trust they have, you can't take it personally, you just attribute it to the fact that they are girls, and you laugh.

Regardless I love this girl and I knew I wouldn't be cheating on her in the summer, and I didn't want to lose her. I did anticipate the doubt she would have, so I did some things to make sure it would work out in the summer.

When we talked about the summer and she told me about her doubts, I told her that the reason for two people breaking up should not be because they missed each other too much. That really stuck with her and helped a lot.

The week before school ended, I gave her a really nice framed picture of the two of us along with a letter telling her how much I'd miss her over the summer. I told her not to worry at all, and then when she missed me, to look at the picture and remember how good it felt to be together, and that our time apart was only temporary. I ended the letter telling her that I was hers, and I loved her. That was huge.

In the final week of school, I made sure that every time we had sex I'd make her cum, and all those quality sessions were the last impression she had before we left. On one of the last nights when we were having really good sex, I got real close to her and said "what you're feeling right now, I want you to bottle this feeling up in your mind, and not forget it. When you miss me this summer and getting frustrated with being so far away, I want you to remember this feeling and know that you are the only girl who I will make feel this way." That was pretty clutch too.

School's been out a month, and things are still going strong. If you're having a hard time with being away, I highly suggest getting a webcam.

Anyways, good luck with everything.

chitown wrote:

sounds like she wants to f*** other guys....

this is the TRUTH. no joke, it happened to me, and it is happening to you.

dirk diggler wrote:

On one of the last nights when we were having really good sex, I got real close to her and said "what you're feeling right now, I want you to bottle this feeling up in your mind, and not forget it. When you miss me this summer and getting frustrated with being so far away, I want you to remember this feeling and know that you are the only girl who I will make feel this way." That was pretty clutch too.

No words.

dirk diggler wrote:

On one of the last nights when we were having really good sex, I got real close to her and said "what you're feeling right now, I want you to bottle this feeling up in your mind, and not forget it. When you miss me this summer and getting frustrated with being so far away, I want you to remember this feeling and know that you are the only girl who I will make feel this way." That was pretty clutch too.

School's been out a month, and things are still going strong.

Dude. Your girl is banging other guys this summer. Don't deny it, don't kid yourself, don't confront her about it. Just accept it and live life accordingly. She owns you, and you need to realize now before it's too late. I'm probably twice your age, and went through the same exact shit all those years ago. It's the same story the whole country over, don't think for a second that you're "clutch".

Thanks, Dirk. I just puked.

Obviously this girl is not a real girlfriend. A girl who gives up that easy isnt worth your time. A real woman would make the relationship work despite the locations or at least put in the effort... i mean cmon its only temporary seperation, i could see if you werent gonna see eachother after 3 months but cmon.

So i guess all this comes down to just one question, what do you do for the summer in terms of relationships. We still are remaining good friends over the summer, and talk once a week or so on the phone, just to see what is going on in the other person's life. I don't want to sit around all summer straying away from women alltogether in hopes that it will all work out in 3 months, but at the same time, i don't want to get involved with someone else, only to find out that all she needed was a break to decide if I was who she really wanted

What do you want to do in terms of a relationship? If you want to date other people over the summer, then do it. It sounds like you definitely still have feelings for this girl and want to leave the door open. Do that, if you choose to date over the summer keep it very light and casual. That way you can go out and still not be involved in anything serious.