How do you guys deal with normies?

Crush their heads like a ripe melon?

So moderators let this inane thread on the board, but threads about dangerous courses, coaches going to jail and hs coaches circumventing rules always seem to be deleted.

Maybe if people added "i'm not running at all - predict my mile time"

Fair is fair. I've presented at academic conferences within my field, but I don't have any advanced degrees or have I been published. I certainly have other interests besides running, as my lungs and grindr inbox would suggest.

I have a professional role within my academic field where people seek me out for the niche work product that I provide. My demeanor isn't material to that work product, so thankfully I don't have to really "get people on my side." I'm a transactional person, and between my day job and consulting I've enabled myself a pocket where I can be coarse and fickle with most of my personal and professional relationships.

Also - because you sound like one of those social economy / SMV types - you should make some friends in the workplace. Allies and colleagues require you to spend a lot of emotional energy over the long term for typically very little gain. I'm younger than 30 and I'll probably make a swerve back into academia within the next 5 years. Point being - I'm not making these friendships for a long time, and can thus cultivate deeper and more intentional connections with people without having to expose myself or any legitimate vulnerability.

I'm always gonna eat the donut. Everyone hates Cheryl because she *does* base her whole life around the workplace, and doesn't have to be in good health to do that. Fat and unattractive, cheryl has never married and has two dogs. Her social network is the workplace and her extended family (if she's lucky). I'm always gonna eat the donut because I can eat the donut. I don't give a crap about what happens at work, or how much money I make, or anything to be quite frank. Some days I'm not even sure if I really exist or not.

Conviviality is a waste of energy in running. Running - and talking about it in the workplace - is what we're talking about. Competitive running - what I do and what you used to do - is a hierarchy. We are trying to figure out who's the best at something. Let's not stack contrivance around it unnecessarily: a race is designed and intended to figure out who is the best at running that distance on that day. Why would I want someone to feel welcome? Accepted? We hold up Pre's grit and competitiveness on a godly level and this dude wouldn't let kids beat him around the track. You think I'm going to be accepting of Cheryl? I'm sure I can redirect the conversation back to her etsy store by calling back on my stunted-but-present knowledge of crochet and talk about looped needles vs. straight, but why bother? I'm not going to be here forever and neither is she at this rate.

llort_vbo and ecoAnPac, have you two considered kissing and making up with some mindblowing rear orificial fornication? Your long exchanges sound like those of a couple.

Haha - you’re probably right. But i feel like we wouldn’t flow in real life. You never know tho.

I just assume that people have more going on behind their work-face. As a right-leaning libertarian, I’ve met so many incredible people from across the landscape, and a few of them are close friends. Cheryl would probably annoy me but she wouldn’t distract me. If I shared why I work out with her, she might become an ally. But, I would never ask anything other than you do you. Thanks for being so open in this crazy space.

paranorm wrote:

llort_vbo and ecoAnPac, have you two considered kissing and making up with some mindblowing rear orificial fornication? Your long exchanges sound like those of a couple.

I'm bi and taken, and someone who is focused on monetary numbers upwards of $300k is certainly not my type hahahahaha not to mention the fact that he used the word allies about his coworkers how cringe

First, that’s household income and I am ok with you being ‘bi and taken.’ I’m a cis white male and ally is not cringe word to me, whatever creepy leftists have attached to it.

You're not using it in the context the left does, and I see that. I'm cringing at your specific in-context use of it, referring ultimately to work relationships in terms of alliance systems as opposed to social networks and real people. Instead of looking at your relationships with other human beings as diplomatic mechanisms on an individual level, maybe you'd have more prosperous work relationships.

You're using it the cringe way, I'm fine with what leftists say, or can't you decode my username oh PhD-haver

I would say: "I find that eating healthy helps me perform better at work, running, hobbies, relationships, and other important parts of my life."

I've found that responding in an honest and matter-o-fact tone satisfies any reasonable person.

Pre-Covid, before remote workplace, I used to always go the gym for a workout at lunch because i didn't want to deal with such things, esp. about what to eat. That kind of information is everywhere, and and nothing I was about to say to anyone was going to be something that hadn't heard.

But when it came to staying active and exercising, I really tried to listen and offer some of my experiences - what has worked for me, what i've read, etc. And i tended to do that in a total scaled down way that encouraged starting easy, building some good habits, enjoying it, etc.

I can tell you, if you just seem non-judgmental and approachable, you can have tremendous impacts on those around you., And fwiw, i never initiate these exchanges. But I never steer away from them if someone opens the door.

I think it works like this. People naturally compare themselves to those around them, esp. people they know, When they get dissatisfied with their health or conditioning or weight, they look over and see the fit co-worker or friend or even family member they know, and think 'well if they can do it, why can't I?' Then they may want to feel that person out to find out more. IF htey get a good vibe on how it just takes a little consistency and time, and can be enjoyable, and worth it, they just may try. And I have seen several people i know and work with take this on,.

In a nutshell, you can be a very positive influence just by setting an example, and if you care even a little bit, you could offer some support.

100%

I eat 3 of those donuts because I WILL run them off!

if you're not into donuts, all you've gotta say is "ehh, im just not into donuts!" with a friendly tone, of course!

a possibility wrote:

I would say: "I find that eating healthy helps me perform better at work, running, hobbies, relationships, and other important parts of my life."

I've found that responding in an honest and matter-o-fact tone satisfies any reasonable person.

more succinctly, "eating that stuff makes me feel like sh!t"

whaaaa?? wrote:

So moderators let this inane thread on the board, but threads about dangerous courses, coaches going to jail and hs coaches circumventing rules always seem to be deleted.

Maybe if people added "i'm not running at all - predict my mile time"

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ace degenerate wrote:

When you're interacting with normies in your lives, how do you manage these relationships? For example, if you're in the breakroom at work and Marge comments on how skinny you are or how you can eat donut because you'll run it off, how do you manage such a situation? When you're out there crushing it due to all the other lifestyle benefits of running and the normies around you wonder where you get all the energy for it, how do you respond to these normies?

Marge was just being polite. That was her way of hinting that she's concerned she's a 50 year old and has ZERO doubt that she could beat you to death with your own shoes because you're built like a 6 year old boy.

Probably not surprising, but "normie" is a new term to me.

As for Marge, it sounds to me like she wants you badly.

I will eat the donut and run it off, no discussion about it. But I will also try to encourage them around if they ask. In my workplace, I have already inspired two persons to get a more active lifestyle that includes jogging.

Everyone on my work group knows I am athletic, and workout a lot. They know I eat anything I want yet stay lean and shredded. The heavier ones are definitely envious, but they have no one to blame but themselves...