themack wrote:
Discussions weren't set on a number, except she wanted "a lot" - she is part of 8 (but really 4, there are steps and halves that are quite younger and she never lived with). I was adamant against that - not affordable, didn't want the change in lifestyle. Took us many steps to get pregnant and have this one - we counted our blessings. Thought we were fine with 1 but that changes when we're around family/friends with multiples.
No, I don't think either of us would say we're particularly strong as a team at the moment...
I would question why you got married if she wanted a lot of kids and you didn't. Also, the "kids aren't affordable, I don't want to change my lifestyle" line indicates you have some issues with selfishness on your part.