Thanks everyone for the comments.
Anyway here's an Update:
I broke up with her this evening.
I began to realize that the Facebook issue, while important, was really a symptom and not the main underlying cause of our issues. Among other things, since this is a running board I'll share that she doesn't like it that I have enough free time to run while I'm switching careers and taking the time to figure out what's right, and she doesn't. She thinks running is a last on the list luxury.
She says she's jealous and wishes she was in my shoes. I kind of understand it because she is busy trying to run her small business in these hard times so whenever I see her I spend a lot of time helping her but it seems like it's never enough.
I went up there saturday evening, and we talked a bit about some of our issues (I didn't bring up the facebook thing then) and then actually had a decent time. I felt OK. I stayed up there. But, Sunday when I was going to walk her dog for her she was back to being critical about some pretty trivial stuff. I told her that evening I wanted to break up due to things being too much of a roller coaster. I also mentioned the facebook thing which surprised her and she said she hadn't changed it because the general public basically doesn't need to know about her personal relationships. It should be what's between the couples that matters. I later said that if you don't want the public to know your relationship details I can totally get that so just leave it blank but by actually saying single it is then deliberately telling the public a lie. I told her I've never been the jealous type so It's not about jealousy it's about honesty, and it's not a good look.
She tried to convince me not to break up but just to take a break for a couple weeks or so because she's just too stressed these days (there is a lot happening for her) and she might be in a better place later. To at least wait until today to talk some more. We talked on the phone today for a long time and I just wasn't getting the sense that anything was going to really change on any issue on her end. (I am willing to do some things). I told her I felt like she tries to call all the shots and there's little compromise.
I thought about it some more and I called her back later and broke up. It was really hard to do. She said she was expecting it.