I beg to differ. Maybe those you drink with are also "bad judges", but that doesn't mean you remain the "best judge" among everyone around you. But even then, they are likely to see your problem before you do, just as you might see their problem before they do. But, more importantly, who lives in a vacuum with just their drinking buddies? Other people might include a spouse, children, parents, brothers, sisters, extended family, friends, enemies, neighbors, colleagues or boss or reports at work, classmates or teachers or students at school, other parents or teachers at your child's school, your child's daycare provider or babysitter, the waitress or bartender serving you, other patrons, friends, strangers, in the bar or restaurant or club or concert or party, the cashier at the liquor store or grocery store, if you're rich, a butler or maid, your family doctor, your pastor, preacher, priest, rabbi, imam, or other spiritual or intellectual leader, your mentor, your mentee, strangers on the street, bus, train, your auto mechanic or local garage that finds dents or scratches or blood on your car, the guy (or girl) whose property you damaged, people you've endangered, threatened, hurt, or worse, the policeman who stopped you, etc.It's hard for me to imagine there are "definitely cases", where 1) you do have a real problem, 2) you realize you have a problem, and 3) no one else does. But, let's say there are "definitely cases", for the sake of argument. Then I would argue (and have), if "no one around you seems to think" your drinking is a problem, then your drinking is not a problem, for all intents and purposes, regardless of clinical definitions of the quantity or rate at which you drink, your BAC, or the strength of the craving for the next drink, or any other measure.
