What percentage of men cheat on their wife or girlfriend?

I like how this is all put on men. Here's a piece of advice: Don't treat your husband like garbage, and there's a much better chance that he won't cheat on you. Withholding sex for months at a time is also probably not a good idea if you want him to stay loyal. So many women do both of these things and then are surprised when they find out their husband has other partners.

Religiousness is a red herring, lots of hypocrites who confess it away next Sunday.

As much as I love banging bitches, I've never cheated. I keep my word and expect the same from others.

GettingFasterDude wrote:It's not true that "all men cheat." Among my married friend group, no one (that I know of) is cheating.

Same here, FWIW.

I have been with my husband for more than 15 years, and I'd stake my life on the fact that he has never cheated on me.

I wouldn't stake my life on him never cheating on me in the future, because you just don't know how relationships may change. But it's very hard for me to imagine because he's just not that kind of guy.

What kind of men cheat on their wives?

* The kind of men who cheat on their girlfriends. If your boyfriend cheats on you, or cheated with you on his previous girlfriend, or cheated to your knowledge on anyone, ever, don't marry him. Find somebody better.

* Extroverts are more likely to cheat than introverts

* Men who have a lot of opportunity. Does your boyfriend work and socialize with lots of women his age? Why do you think that is?

* I agree with the person who said men who get married after 40

* Men who date multiple women at the same time, even if they're honest about it. My husband and I were "exclusive" from the first time he kissed me. We didn't have to discuss it; that's the kind of guy he was and the kind of woman I am

* Men who are very sex-motivated. Some people are more driven by sex than others. I do think men that are highly sex-driven are more likely to cheat. In general, if your partner's sex drive is way higher than yours, that's not great. And even if you can keep up with him now, if there's a super high sex drive, what happens when the kids come and you don't feel up to it while pregnant, etc.?

36M married for 7+ years. I have never cheated. The type of a mind that would commit adultery is very bizarre to me. I can’t imagine lying to my wife about even the smallest things. That said, I don’t tell lies, period. Am I religious? Yes. Traditional Catholic, to be specific. So, not only do I not do something like sleep with a woman (I feel almost ashamed saying it), but I do not actively engage my sexual faculty whatsoever unless it’s in making love to my wife. Is that unusual? Certainly, for today’s standards. Mind you, many today are effeminate pleasure-seekers with no self-discipline or any real love in their hearts.

My guess is that 50-60% of men cheat at least once in their life. Maybe in marriage, maybe in a relationship. It might be more. Or a little bit less. If you include porn or imagining other women, then it's a heck of a lot higher.

I think you have several types of cheaters. Some you can probably screen for. Some you can not. I do think you have to accept that it might happen. You have to know what you will do if it does. It might not be simple. It might depend on the type of cheater or cheating you have. Or, for you, there may be no excuse ever.

In general, look out for deceptive men. They lie about work, they lie about where they go. They lie about their family. They lie about their mile time. Men who flirt. Men with major porn addictions. Men who are narcissists. These are all red flags. Then again, is it easy to spot a deceptive man? Some people are good at lying. Or sometimes we are flat out lied to and just don't want to see it.

Be honest.

I told my wife I would tell her before I cheated, but I wasn't making any vows. There were some red flags on me definitely. Her best friend told her I was just fooling around. So, when I was near trying greener grass after more than 10 years of marriage and 3 kids, PNSO had gotten bad, neglect was the norm, not sharing much of anything. Telling her that come what may, I was not going to have what we had as my love life, got us on track for turning things around. Had I gone outside my marriage for sex and told my wife later or tried to hide it from her, we would probably not have been able to improve the situation and would have miserably stayed together "for the kids" at best.

Better Marry a Robot wrote:

Interesting discussion. Unfortunately, I think the OP will turn lesbian after what I have to say. Look at all the most rich and powerful men in the world, they all prolifically cheat and/or pedophiles:

Bill Gates: An international pedophile with Epstein and also cheats constantly with women when married to Melinda for decades

Bill Clinton: Cheated on Hilary with Monica Lewinsky and likely others, also a pedophile with Epstein

Jeff Bezos: Cheated on wife so many times with constant rotation of hookers

Elon Musk: Divorced twice now, cheated on first wife with the second, likely cheated on the second wife with a third or fourth or fifth

Don't you have a Q meeting to be at?

dune wrote:

Lol at "all men cheat", you've got a social circle that's pure trash if you believe that. That's like hanging out with a bunch of drug addicts and then thinking "all men use meth" or "all men are addicted to opiates".

I don't know a single person in real life who's ever had infidelity in any of their relationships, and I'm old enough that half my friends are divorced and remarried. Real life isn't a TV drama.

Agreed on your first paragraph. But your second is questionable.

Why in the world would you think that people you associate with would tell you intimate details of their sex lives? It is far more likely that you have absolutely no idea whether any of the people you know "has ever had infidelity in any of their relationships."

Married man here. First: What the hell is PNSO? I looked it up and found dinosaurs.

I’m glad you decided against wounding your wife terribly and committing a grave sin, all just so you could have an orgasm with some other woman.

Adultery is absolutely repulsive and evil. If you have kids, the trauma they suffer from parental adultery and other evils like divorce is absolutely devastating.

It’s unbelievable how many grown men also masturbate, watch porn, etc. World has grown effeminate and reprobate.

running is the bananas wrote:

Married man here. First: What the hell is PNSO? I looked it up and found dinosaurs.

I’m glad you decided against wounding your wife terribly and committing a grave sin, all just so you could have an orgasm with some other woman.

Adultery is absolutely repulsive and evil. If you have kids, the trauma they suffer from parental adultery and other evils like divorce is absolutely devastating.

It’s unbelievable how many grown men also masturbate, watch porn, etc. World has grown effeminate and reprobate.

In the immortal words of Chris Rock, "a man is only as faithful as his options."

Couch Potato wrote:

Depends on the continent. Whiteys are too romantic to cheat on their spouses (other than the ones that love NASCAR). I live in Africa and we tap our neighbour's spouses and their spouses' spouses all day. We ain't playing.

Responses like this are why I come to letsrun

I personally don’t have any guy friends that have cheated on their girlfriends or wife. I do know d@mn near all the women cheated tho lol. I’d say you’d be surprised by the honest percentages.

VroomVroom wrote:

I personally don’t have any guy friends that have cheated on their girlfriends or wife. I do know d@mn near all the women cheated tho lol. I’d say you’d be surprised by the honest percentages.

And again, how the heck could you possibly know if any of your guy friends have cheated on their girlfriends or wives? Do you really think that anything that your friend has not told you about hasn't happened? Seriously?

running is the bananas wrote:

Married man here. First: What the hell is PNSO? I looked it up and found dinosaurs.

I’m glad you decided against wounding your wife terribly and committing a grave sin, all just so you could have an orgasm with some other woman.

Adultery is absolutely repulsive and evil. If you have kids, the trauma they suffer from parental adultery and other evils like divorce is absolutely devastating.

It’s unbelievable how many grown men also masturbate, watch porn, etc. World has grown effeminate and reprobate.

Not sure if that was meant as comedy but, if so, well done!

How do you define cheating?

Watching porn? Talking and flirting with other women?

squinka wrote:

36M married for 7+ years. I have never cheated. The type of a mind that would commit adultery is very bizarre to me. I can’t imagine lying to my wife about even the smallest things. That said, I don’t tell lies, period. Am I religious? Yes. Traditional Catholic, to be specific. So, not only do I not do something like sleep with a woman (I feel almost ashamed saying it), but I do not actively engage my sexual faculty whatsoever unless it’s in making love to my wife. Is that unusual? Certainly, for today’s standards. Mind you, many today are effeminate pleasure-seekers with no self-discipline or any real love in their hearts.

Why do you religious nuts claim it's "effeminate" to do what men evolved to do?

I can understand attacking their lack of self-discipline but why the attack on their manhood?

I converted to Catholic to marry my wife of 16 years. I've had 3 priests in those 16 years. The first went to prison for soliciting sex from men while being HIV positive. The second went to prison for being a pedophile. The third hasn't been caught yet. So the notion that you religious nuts are somehow above it all is laughable.

By “effeminate” I’m not suggesting anyone “isn’t a man” or whatever. Actually, I’d probably revise what I said to what you said: a lack of self-discipline.

As for your examples: what are you trying to say? What is a Catholic supposed to do with that kind of information? Is your point that there are many bad Catholics? If that’s your point, you’re right. Many baptized Catholics are in favour of contraception, homosexual “marriages”, and treating those in adulterous or cohabiting relationships as if they’re married. Is there some other point you’re making?