Is it just me, or do a lot of career-oriented women have some kind of chip on their shoulder?

Some career minded women fight for success in a career which is good and a great ambition but underlying everything is this insecurity to prove themselves and feel significant. Reality is they are significant and valued before they ever took that journey to becoming successful in their career. They are somebody's beloved daughter and have incredible value..if they only knew...now because insecurity is the dominating force they put on this front to compensate for the insecurity they feel. It's comes out in the form of arrogance which is a turn off and what your noticing. Not saying non career minded women aren't insecure but they are typically a little more down to earth, real and vulnerable which most would consider valuable and an attractive trait. Every case is unique and different but this is a common theme.

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But there is a weird video on Youtube of Bill Nye the Science guy singing Hip Hop encouraging girls to be whores, for lack of a better word.

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Hi guys, I just want to translate this post for all those that are new to Letsrun. The OP asks this question because his insecurity and low self confidence need to find some singular, stereotypical reason for why career-oriented women are not interested in him.

Also, expect a follow up post in which he has prove how much of a player that he is, because I just insinuated that he can’t get the women he wants.

Noticing patterns wrote:

I'm 29 and have been looking at women more and more in terms of long-term partnership, and something I've noticed is that most "career-oriented" women tend to have some kind of chip on their shoulder that makes them unpleasant a lot of the time. I'm pretty career-oriented myself and would ideally like a woman who was smart and driven also, but a lot of the women around my age or a little older I've gone out with who are indeed successful tend to have some rather significant character/personality flaws that make being married to them seem like not a great idea. I'm not really sure what the deal is, but it's like they're out to prove something and are often kind of condescending and even downright nasty.

Is this just me?

Sounds like just about every career oriented workaholic man I've encountered too. It's the absurd American work ethic that compels people to work 1.5x their expected weekly hours, take no vacation (even though they have plenty of days saved up), and otherwise all but put their entire 20s on hold that you should be blaming, not women.

b it up wrote:

Jefferson D'Arcy wrote:

I'm a stay-at-home dad and happily married to a very successful doctor. I can't confirm your particular experience with career-oriented women. My wife is the kindest person I've ever known and supports me in every way she can. Unlike most men at my age, I've tons of time for my various hobbies (after finishing the daily chores and cooking, which takes me just about 3 hours). I have to add though, that looks-wise I'm much more than what my wife could reasonably expect (she's rather heavy and not carrying her weight well), so this might be one reason why she's so good-natured towards me.

So yes, maybe the issue is just within yourself.

Your wife is nice to you so you don't find out about the big black dick she's getting at work.

Even if that were true, I wouldn't mind. She is heavy, so she might require bigger tools to dig under her fupa. But do you know how great it is to have a shower with your 17 year old au-pair girl after coming home from rockclimbing?

I would never trade my lifestyle with anyone else.

Trump_fan wrote:

The biggest heist ever

2 people, husband and wife working for the price of one. Companys and the Globalists as they pimp cultural marxism, post modernism and Politically correct culture.

Grandmas not being Grandmas

Moms neglecting dad, now she is divorced and washed up with nothing to show for and no one trusts her.

Aunts not being aunts

Hence, neices not being good baby sitting neices

But there is a weird video on Youtube of Bill Nye the Science guy singing Hip Hop encouraging girls to be whores, for lack of a better word.

Beta men sitting with their daughters at a restaurant on Friday night while “Alpha Male” feminist Wife cleans off a plate of steaks after a hard week at the office. Lol, I’ve actually seen this and it was pathetic.

Your post is pathetic. Be a man.

John Clendon wrote:

Gvhhgvhvghgvh wrote:

Wow, did I just wake up in the 1970s?

Kind of. The old white men that run the Fortune 500 companies of the world have 1970s values. Until those sexist old men retire, women have an uphill battle trying to get ahead in the working world. They have to operate with a chip on their shoulder, some attitude. It's a PITA being a woman in that kind of environment. It's exhausting.

Fortunately, millennials have a better grasp that a woman, in fact, does not have a smaller brain than a man and menstruate if they get too stressed. They have the common sense that regardless of sex, everyone can do the same job.

You are an oblivious if you think this isn't the case.

Men have bigger brains. It's science.

Seems like a struck a bit of a nerve with a lot of people here. Kind of ironic given what I asked.

To elaborate, many of the career-driven women I've met had less than stellar relationships with their parents and seem to be compensating for it with over-achieving and perfectionism in adulthood. I'm not knocking that since achieving is a good thing, but many of these types don't seem to have the self-awareness to understand how all this can negatively affect their interpersonal relationships, especially when they bring hyper-competitiveness and insecurity into intimate relationships. I've had several women now get VERY upset with me just for having success in my life. One viewed herself to be an awesome runner because she sometimes ran as far as 9 miles at a time without stopping, for example. She suddenly wanted nothing to do with me and was very negative to me after a mutual friend brought up at a group dinner that I ran in college and competed at nationals. Another woman got very upset with me and started treating me differently when I was showing my coworkers photos from my 2 month backpacking trip around South America. I wasn't trying to brag or boast at all; my coworkers and I are friends, and they asked to see photos from my trip and for me to talk about it. This other woman was present too and was welcome to join in, but rather than enjoy it, she got very mad and jealous. This sort of thing happens over and over with these types. Their competitiveness and drive has helped them in their careers a lot, but it poisons their interpersonal relationships, and some of them don't seem to have any awareness of how dysfunctional they are.

I want to stress not every one is like that at all. It's just a pattern I've noticed. Some have been quite pleasant people.

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Used to be Rono wrote:

I think gender has little to do with it. Over the past 2 or 3 decades attributes like decency, kindness, respect, civility, courtesy, compassion, and honesty

have been in steady decline.

It coencides with the devaluation of women and the traditional work they do at home, the nurturing and training of decent human beings that have values beyond the selfish and empty pursuits of money and prestige.

+1

Noticing patterns wrote:

Is this just me?

Yes.

These women are hot in the box as well.

Well, I've seen photos where Jane Goodall has a chimp on her shoulder.

Which flavor of chip?

Scientific fact: women have smaller brains than men

In the tech field where I work, it's easier for a professional woman or minority to get a job even if they are underqualified because of corporate diversity goals. Despite being less competent than others, they get promoted and tout around as corporate puppets and soon think of themselves as hard workers although their success is often an illusion. The chip you are referring to is victim complex induced entitlement, and they carry it into their home/dating lives.

Well you both are past the prime child bearing age biologically. She knows this internally. It’s all downhill from here on out.

You would have a chip on your shoulder too if you believed the feminist lie that women get paid less.

The point that others are making is that your points are anecdotal, and others have experiences to the contrary. But sure, convince yourself that career-driven women are mentally warped.

Nope it is not just with you, same situation here :) I understand what you are talking about, but I don't any reasonable answer why there are what they are :)

obuter wrote:

The point that others are making is that your points are anecdotal, and others have experiences to the contrary. But sure, convince yourself that career-driven women are mentally warped.

I agree. I’ve been in both positions where I stayed home and raised kids and now trying to establish/define my career. I’ve always been driven whether it be personal or professional life. I don’t think I have a chip on my shoulder (maybe a brick—just kidding) it’s how the other person interprets their character or comes across to them. A lot of men are just as competitive and can be insecure as well.

All I know for me, (a single divorce fem), I’m content, happy, like to have fun, to do things, don’t like arguing and don’t mind being alone if I can’t find a companion. With that said, am I human at times? Sure I’m not perfect—who is?

I think bottom line, OP needs to learn how to connect with women and vice versa but not everyone is capable of doing so b/c they put up barriers .