The Art of manliness WHEN IS ACCEPTABLE FOR A MAN TO CRY?

Bd237 wrote:

I guess it's acceptable to cry when you need to? The only time I ever do it is when I'm drunk and really stressed out from life, I'll have a tear or two roll down my eye. The last time I cried was thinking about the loss of a loved one.

That's one of the interesting things about drinking: Some guys become happy, others cry and some become violent.

Only when listening to a movingly beautiful musical piece.

Music lover wrote:

Only when listening to a movingly beautiful musical piece.

The Man Card Administration will be paying a visit to a number of you “guys”. Be prepared to relinquish you card upon request. You can make your case for reinstatement at a formal administrative hearing at a later date.

It is okay to cry at some movies such as Field of Dreams (already mentioned) and Brian's Song.

Those videos of military personnel returning home and surprising their kids or mom or wife are real tearjerkers. They get me every time.

Crying: Acceptable at funerals and the Grand Canyon

Dick Vermeil wrote:

There is no crying in baseball, so not evening winning the World Series gets you a pass on this. When would it be allowed and socially ok?

The list is obviously short.

1. Winning the Super Bowl (the first time, any subsequent times - no)

2. Birth or death of a son

I think that is about it. Any other emotional moments should be met in silence or swearing.

Crying IS allowed in baseball:

During sex

How about this: It's okay to cry whenever you feel like crying? This thread is full of insecure people. Why would anybody care about when someone else cries anyway? I haven't cried in over a year - what does that have to do with the price of rice in China? Does that make me more masculine than someone who cries weekly? Daily? Where is this magical threshold of masculinity? I know where - it's wherever a bunch of delusional people's heads on a message board have decided. Why don't we just build an army of robots to replace all men? It sounds like the true definition of masculine is an emotionless jerk who composed message board posts deriding everybody else - almost a virtual version of crying on a regular basis. Go cry me a river you fools.

I have cried at least 15 times at the scene near the end of "Purple Rain" when the big burly club owner with the cap, who thought Prince (the character) was an immature jerk who squandered his talent (because, well, he was), finally gives Prince a nod of approval. A small nod, in profile, easy to miss if you're not paying attention. It gets me every time, even though I obviously know it's coming.

This is odd wrote:

Why don't we just build an army of robots to replace all men? It sounds like the true definition of masculine is an emotionless jerk who composed message board posts deriding everybody else - almost a virtual version of crying on a regular basis. Go cry me a river you fools.

OK, and I agree with your definition of masculine.

This is odd wrote:

How about this: It's okay to cry whenever you feel like crying? This thread is full of insecure people. Why would anybody care about when someone else cries anyway? I haven't cried in over a year - what does that have to do with the price of rice in China? Does that make me more masculine than someone who cries weekly? Daily? Where is this magical threshold of masculinity? I know where - it's wherever a bunch of delusional people's heads on a message board have decided. Why don't we just build an army of robots to replace all men? It sounds like the true definition of masculine is an emotionless jerk who composed message board posts deriding everybody else - almost a virtual version of crying on a regular basis. Go cry me a river you fools.

This is not odd. You are odd if you are not familiar with the norms of masculinity that have been around for thousands of years.

Coach Jimmy V said to cry every day. I don't quite do that but I can find happiness in the little things that most days get me there. He was more of a man than I'll ever be.

You are constantly stupid and wrong. That is some amazing revisionst history. Crying is largely cultural, and it sounds like you have drank the Fox News macho Kool-Aid.

Mental man wrote:

John Utah wrote:

This is not odd. You are odd if you are not familiar with the norms of masculinity that have been around for thousands of years.

You are constantly stupid and wrong. That is some amazing revisionst history. Crying is largely cultural, and it sounds like you have drank the Fox News macho Kool-Aid.

Only a brainwashed retard would think that Fox News is the source of masculine standards and norms dating thousands of years. Revisionist history? Really? Man, you are brainwashed. Wake up, fool. Maybe your wife’s boyfriend can talk some sense into you.

Cake pants wrote:

Coach Jimmy V said to cry every day. I don't quite do that but I can find happiness in the little things that most days get me there. He was more of a man than I'll ever be.

Wow, that’s about the worst advice I’ve ever heard. American history is filled with thousands and thousands of great men who exemplified traditional masculine standards. Don’t pick a emotional weenie as your role model. Controlling emotions has been a masculine virtue in countless civilizations since the beginning of history. Go read about the stoics for some inspiration. Not some goofball basketball coach.

John Utah wrote:

Cake pants wrote:

Coach Jimmy V said to cry every day. I don't quite do that but I can find happiness in the little things that most days get me there. He was more of a man than I'll ever be.

Wow, that’s about the worst advice I’ve ever heard. American history is filled with thousands and thousands of great men who exemplified traditional masculine standards. Don’t pick a emotional weenie as your role model. Controlling emotions has been a masculine virtue in countless civilizations since the beginning of history. Go read about the stoics for some inspiration. Not some goofball basketball coach.

You are consistently stupid at least. I can't believe you function as a human being.

Soap wrote:

During sex

Yeah, no kidding! Fifty bucks is a lot of money.

Dick Vermeil wrote:

There is no crying in baseball, so not evening winning the World Series gets you a pass on this. When would it be allowed and socially ok?

The list is obviously short.

1. Winning the Super Bowl (the first time, any subsequent times - no)

2. Birth or death of a son

I think that is about it. Any other emotional moments should be met in silence or swearing.

Its ok for Adam Goucher and the rest of the rupp haters to cry when they realize the allegations are false and galen is the real deal.

John Utah wrote:

Cake pants wrote:

Coach Jimmy V said to cry every day. I don't quite do that but I can find happiness in the little things that most days get me there. He was more of a man than I'll ever be.

Wow, that’s about the worst advice I’ve ever heard. American history is filled with thousands and thousands of great men who exemplified traditional masculine standards. Don’t pick a emotional weenie as your role model. Controlling emotions has been a masculine virtue in countless civilizations since the beginning of history. Go read about the stoics for some inspiration. Not some goofball basketball coach.

Your mom should have spit you out when she had the chance. It's hard to believe that out of all those swimmers this is the one that made it.