Be single in your late 20s ==> Gradually get edged out of social circles

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jamin wrote:

The majority of my college buddies are married without kids or are in a relationship. That means they hang out with each other as couples and I only get invited once in a while to be wheel 2N+1 (out of pity, I suspect). Anyone else know that feel?

Even the single ones son't want to invite you.

You’re friends with Seattleites, bro. That’s just how it goes. All my UW “friends” and I have drifted cause all we had in common was proximity, classes, and drinking. Then you realize one day that those people suck and that all the social hang outs are dick measuring contests.

Move to the North Sound or something... life is great out in the burbs!

Go out and meet newer and cooler people, relentlessly. Friendship as a single is like coaching, you have to both recruit and develop.

happy and single wrote:

Go out and meet newer and cooler people, relentlessly. Friendship as a single is like coaching, you have to both recruit and develop.

Good advice to most people. But Jamin isn't most people. He isn't being edged out because he is single, he is getting edged out because they're getting to know him better and are horrified at what they see.

jamin wrote:

The majority of my college buddies are married without kids or are in a relationship. That means they hang out with each other as couples and I only get invited once in a while to be wheel 2N+1 (out of pity, I suspect). Anyone else know that feel?

You could hang out with Sand Dunes.

Get your 5k under 14:15 and the girls will be swarming you. Then you don't need a Russian GF or to be a 3rd wheel

theoniongoat wrote:

happy and single wrote:

Go out and meet newer and cooler people, relentlessly. Friendship as a single is like coaching, you have to both recruit and develop.

Good advice to most people. But Jamin isn't most people. He isn't being edged out because he is single, he is getting edged out because they're getting to know him better and are horrified at what they see.

They don't know the half of it. Just wait until they make the mistake of accepting an invitation to one of Jamin's dinner parties and he serves his guests ramen noodles after unveiling his newly erected medal and trophy display case.

IveAlwaysWantedToPostInAJaminThread wrote:

all the social hang outs are dick measuring contests

How so?

Try being single in your lates 20s all the way through your late 30s.

jamin wrote:

The majority of my college buddies are married without kids or are in a relationship. That means they hang out with each other as couples and I only get invited once in a while to be wheel 2N+1 (out of pity, I suspect). Anyone else know that feel?

Don't worry Jamin. Your wheels are better then theres. I bet there wheels would fall off if they tried running like you. Then you would be the only wheel

jamin wrote:

IveAlwaysWantedToPostInAJaminThread wrote:

all the social hang outs are dick measuring contests

How so?

Because people are insecure af regarding how successful they are, how much money they are making, etc.

The truth is this: just focus on doing your own thing. None of your friends matter in the long run.

Get filthy rich, a smoking hot wife, and that elusive sub-2:30 'thon. You are then set. You don't need your friends.

When are you coming to Kiev? Me and my friends want to meet you!

Travel solo around Europe and see the world.

It's not worth trying to fit in man. Most people are miserable but want to send the opposite message to the outside world. I taught this was evident by now.

So what, you get in a relationship, go to some dinner with another couple and next thing you know the girls leave for a bit and now you feel forced to talk about baseball with some c**t you don't even know. Now that sounds like a fun evening right?

Married people are some of the most boring people you can find. People get conformed, sloppy, let themselves go and run out of things to talk about. My parents are no exception.

Rockstar Games wrote:

It's not worth trying to fit in man. Most people are miserable but want to send the opposite message to the outside world. I taught this was evident by now.

So what, you get in a relationship, go to some dinner with another couple and next thing you know the girls leave for a bit and now you feel forced to talk about baseball with some c**t you don't even know. Now that sounds like a fun evening right?

Married people are some of the most boring people you can find. People get conformed, sloppy, let themselves go and run out of things to talk about. My parents are no exception.

Was this a suicide note ?

jamin wrote:

The majority of my college buddies are married without kids or are in a relationship. That means they hang out with each other as couples and I only get invited once in a while to be wheel 2N+1 (out of pity, I suspect). Anyone else know that feel?

This is only true if your “friends” really didn’t like you that much and you were always more of a hanger on rather than actually being close. As you age you let the unimportant relationships drift away, and get a smaller circle of close friends. Having a single friend is not unusual, difficult or a burden to invite along or hang out with.

In the center of your title: is that an arrow or a penis?

Crime scene investigator wrote:

Rockstar Games wrote:

It's not worth trying to fit in man. Most people are miserable but want to send the opposite message to the outside world. I taught this was evident by now.

So what, you get in a relationship, go to some dinner with another couple and next thing you know the girls leave for a bit and now you feel forced to talk about baseball with some c**t you don't even know. Now that sounds like a fun evening right?

Married people are some of the most boring people you can find. People get conformed, sloppy, let themselves go and run out of things to talk about. My parents are no exception.

Was this a suicide note ?

I laughed out loud