When to start dating after a divorce?

About eight months before the divorce.

Focus on a separation agreement, get it done quickly and cheaply, without lawyers if possible. Once you have that in place it is time to enjoy life again.

re-dating, you will discover that some women actually DO give oral sex. some women are willing to try different positions. and some are even willing to try a threesome.

Serious advice that since its on LetsRun won't be considered serious:

You should start dating after you've banged through at least 2 cheer leading squads of chicks.

Again, totally serious. If you are asking about when its time to start dating, you are not ready to date. Go have fun.

Never. Just wait a few years for the VR sex dolls to come out.

Here's a serious answer.

It took me about 6 months after my divorce to get a date. Met some girl at a party and we hit it off. We dated for a month then I she got weird so I deleted her number. Found another girl and dated her for 2 months but the chemistry was just not there.

A month after that, I found who is now my new wife.

Timelines vary by the individual. I know a girl who had a guy lined up while her divorce was not finalized but she was a ho-bag. Another friend took three years before getting a date because he held onto the bitterness.

My advice is to test the waters a bit and try to lock down a date. If the date feels really awkward and you are not into it, it's probably time to take a little break and figure out yourself, what you want, and do the things you like to do without being tied down.

I'd say it depends on the length of your marriage and the circumstances of your divorce (how long the relationship had been deteriorating, who initiated the divorce, etc.). In my case, I was with my husband for 12 years, married at age 25 while in grad school. He had a very big personality that had a tendency to swallow me up, so I needed some time to figure out who I was independent of him and as a more fully realized adult. I was ready to date again after about a year.

I started dating about a year after. Saw a therapist that whole time. Still see a therapist. I had a lot to learn about myself, relationships, etc, before I felt comfortable dating again. But I'm glad I took the time to learn about that stuff. It's made my dating a lot more fun.

Rebounding wrote: I was ready to date again after about a year.

You mean, to b@ngg hard... yeah! Too long, especially for a woman.

Divorcée wrote:...when did you start dating after a divorce...right away? Before or after or never?

Had my first date about two weeks before my divorce was final. Got a little too caught up in my "transition relationship" but it was still four months of outstanding sex.

My ex, on the other hand, was kicking me and my kids out of the house about two days after we decided to split so she could have a "friend" over for the weekend. I honestly believe that she was faithful during our entire marriage, but she sure as hell didn't waste any time getting back on the market once we'd made the decision to cut ties.

If you have kids, you should avoid having a relationship until your kids are grown, as they will not like having to share you with another person. If you don't have kids, then whenever you feel up to dealing with another person again.

when ever you want to.

In Transition wrote: I honestly believe that she was faithful during our entire marriage.

Don't hold onto that too hard. Women cheat just like men.

I can't believe this is a serious question, however, serious answer, whenever you want. Typically, it will happen as soon as you see someone you want to bang.

Depends on the circumstances. If you have kids then you should give them a few months to adjust and process things, then have a talk with them and see what their thoughts about are (although I guess you could still date in secret). If you left your wife and she still wants you then you don't technically have to wait, but it would be the nice thing to do, you probably at least owe her that much. If you don't have kids and it was a mutual decision then I don't see why you should wait if you don't want to though. Don't be blatant about having a new chick right away but theres nothing wrong with seeing some girls/guys

pop_pop!_v2.2.1 wrote:

In Transition wrote: I honestly believe that she was faithful during our entire marriage.

Don't hold onto that too hard. Women cheat just like men.

No you dumb f$$3. Women cheat a) MORE and b) BETTER than men. I know because I'm the expert here. I've mastered dozens of wives over the years and only very few hubs ever believed or discovered she was stepping out. Men on the other hand were dumba$$es about how they handle their extras and almost always get found out by the ladies. The social reporting bias and usual princess ideologies contradict factual reality, as usual.

I would choose to never date. It's a waste of time and all women aren't worth it. The good ones choose losers to "fix" at a young age and end up divorced in their 40s when their plan fails. By then they are all used up, have children, and useless to a man.

Don't settle for that life. Stay single, focus on science, and do something productive with your life.

comedyrelief wrote:

If you have kids, you should avoid having a relationship until your kids are grown, as they will not like having to share you with another person. If you don't have kids, then whenever you feel up to dealing with another person again.

Totally wrong, and just one example is the husband being a bad person, child molester, wife beater, or just a terrible person in general. In this and many other cases the best thing is to get away from him fast, and do your best to get the kids away from him too. Start working on healing immediately, as this is a long term and continuing process. As to forming a new relationship, whenever you're ready; whenever this occurs in the natural course of events.

008 wrote:

Focus on a separation agreement, get it done quickly and cheaply, without lawyers if possible. Once you have that in place it is time to enjoy life again.

No kidding! They try to squeeze every ounce of blood out of you, in this case dollars. I think I went into the wrong profession....lol

Thanks everyone, I knew I could count on you guys. Btw, I'm female. Hence my name...."divorcée"....😊