materialism is everywhere:
That is actually an excellent answer.
It would take a book to actually explain the mind of a woman or man. It does seem as though if you take the time to talk to a girl she will eventually become more attracted to you IF you are able to focus on more than JUST her beauty.
The football jock is good at doing that because he is already out in the limelight and in demand. It's not the muscles so much as it's the attitude. There are women out there who will date/marry any type of physical specimen. That is why God made so many common men.
In a few years most of the babes in high school will all look the same...overweight and out of shape. Lots of men will remain somewhat in shape, more so than women it seems. It's harder for women for many reasons to stay in shape.
Take the Kenyan approach...Train hard and Win easy!!!
Be confident in who you are and in what you do. There is no one like you!