I am 49 and my girlfriend of 7 years is 49. my girlfriend has a 30 year old daughter who is struggling because of drugs and abusive men. She has a 13 year old daughter and a 7 year old son. For the last 13 years my girlfriends daughter has been living on the edge, either electric gets cut off or cable, or gas, its never ending. She has been in jail a few times for drug possession, and this last time my chose not to bail her out. So she stayed in jail until her court date which was 30 days later. Her kids stayed with us. Her kids are half black, and we are white. So this is a cultural difference. They 13 year old watches the BET channel daily, and is always on her school provided laptop watching rap videos. We still have the kids because their mother is now out of jail but has no place to really go. We chose not to let her stay with us. The 13 year old has a very bad attitude, will not do chores and is very disrespectful to both of us. We tried to set rules for her such as bed is at 10 and laptop needs to be off. She advised us that Nobody tells her when to go to bed, and she can use her laptop anytime she wants. In a way I do feel bad for the kids because all their lives they have been living on the edge because of their mother. WE have always paid their Water bill, electric bill, gas bill when it got shut off. We have spent well over 5 thousand dollars on her daughter. Its always something. Now the daughter does not want to comply with any rules, and her father is out of the picture. I realize I am probably leaving something out, but has anyone ever had to deal with this?