Dad catches teen having sex with disgraced track coach - Fort Zumalt East High School

sbeefyk2 wrote:

Me Tooo wrote:

That poor 17 year old guy getting laid. He will be traumatized for life.

Yup. Same thing when a 30 year old guy lays a 16 year old girl, right? Lucky her. Getting an experienced man who knows what he’s doing. That’s much better than a high school age boy who will just flounder around missing all the important spots.

Or even better, several 30 year old guys laying a 16 year old girl at the same time. I mean come on, if one man is great then several men must be incredible!! What a lucky girl she’d be!

16 is the age of consent in most states, and is also the age of consent in most western countries. So yes, that would be fine.

educating you wrote:

16 is the age of consent in most states, and is also the age of consent in most western countries. So yes, that would be fine.

Yes 14 to 16 is the norm in Western countries, but it usually excludes relationships with a power dynamics (inside family, teacher/student, etc.).

loqueelvientoajuarez wrote:

educating you wrote:

16 is the age of consent in most states, and is also the age of consent in most western countries. So yes, that would be fine.

Yes 14 to 16 is the norm in Western countries, but it usually excludes relationships with a power dynamics (inside family, teacher/student, etc.).

Yes, faced with this moral dilemma, the lad should have asked himself: what would Harvey Weinstein do?

baguette wrote:

From her mug shot it looks like they must have been doing it for a few days straight.

Isn't Missouri a noted meth state?

Smart dad, setting this up for some kind of lawsuit against the school district.

I'm surprised the father didn't join in.

Apparently, for the New York Post, there are never enough stories about older women in trysts with minor males.

I feel bad for the kid. His hand must be hurting after all those high fives

If you touch my kid again I'll cut your hands off!

I have a friend who had sex with a female teacher when he was 14. The result has years of therapy and a bunch of trust issues. He is 30 years old now and still has trouble talking about it.

But But But I thought that gender was a just a social construct? That means that it wasn't a "male" student or even a "female" teacher/coach.... it was just two humans in love. Why do you people hate love?

well actually wrote:

I have a friend who had sex with a female teacher when he was 14. The result has years of therapy and a bunch of trust issues. He is 30 years old now and still has trouble talking about it.

It’s no wonder. Look at the responses on this board. Imagine feeling violated and ashamed, but everyone’s response is a high-five and an attaboy. I’m sure you would feel compelled to bury those feelings and not deal with them, causing plenty of anguish.

Jeffrey MacDonald spoke of a sexual encounter he had with one of his mother’s friends while in his early teens. His disregard for women later in his adult life was apparent, culminating in the murder of his wife and two young daughters. Did he kill his family because he had sex with an older woman? No. But I’m sure it helped in f$&@ing up his attitudes on women and sex.

I find it bizarre that these women want to have sex with 14-18 year old boys. It appears to go against all cultural norms as well as biology.

My arm chair theory is that these women become so entrenched in the school and it's social scene and hierarchy that they insert themselves into it and see these teen boys as "desirable". If it was just sex any one of these women could go to any bar and go home with their choice of grown men.

It's just weird.

FakeKnews wrote:

I find it bizarre that these women want to have sex with 14-18 year old boys. It appears to go against all cultural norms as well as biology.

My arm chair theory is that these women become so entrenched in the school and it's social scene and hierarchy that they insert themselves into it and see these teen boys as "desirable". If it was just sex any one of these women could go to any bar and go home with their choice of grown men.

It's just weird.

Most likely this. That said, I think we try too hard to care about who people are having sex with. Boy or girl, doesn't matter, let them have the relationships they want. When you make it a taboo relationship they'll become less likely to come forward when they don't want to participate. If you allow it from the jump, they'll be more willing to call it off because they'll feel like they can talk to others about it more easily.

These discussions always derail over people bringing in other examples. There is a huge difference between a 14 year old boy and a 17 year old, in terms of likelihood of being “scarred for life”. Also in terms of how coercive the older woman was.

Most 17 year old guys with at least some experience with girls, even if not sexually, are not going to be traumatized by a consensual encounter with an older woman they are attracted to. This is likely not the case for a 14 year old boy whose first physical experience with a woman is non consensual in nature.

No middle aged woman in her right mind finds a 17 year old high school boy attractive. I’ll vouch for that, as I’m female, middle aged, and have teenaged children. A woman who beds a 17 year old has a screw loose, and is most likely a narcissist. You sleep with one of these women, you’re inviting crazy into your life. Now with that said, these women also have an instinct for self-preservation, and most likely an outward image of the perfect teacher or suburban mom they want to maintain. You better hope you get caught in the act, because if the “relationship” is exposed via rumor, a crazy, narcissistic person will resort to lies and deceipt to escape responsibility. Do you want your 17 year old son accused of rape? Or maybe the woman is so crazy she decides to get pregnant. Do you want your son to become a father his senior year? These things are certainly in the realm of possibility. For an extreme case, google Pamela Smart. Stay away from crazy.

Hot for teacher wrote:

These discussions always derail over people bringing in other examples. There is a huge difference between a 14 year old boy and a 17 year old, in terms of likelihood of being “scarred for life”. Also in terms of how coercive the older woman was.

Most 17 year old guys with at least some experience with girls, even if not sexually, are not going to be traumatized by a consensual encounter with an older woman they are attracted to. This is likely not the case for a 14 year old boy whose first physical experience with a woman is non consensual in nature.

Jamin,

if you discuss...I value your opinion on this thread...

FakeKnews wrote:

I find it bizarre that these women want to have sex with 14-18 year old boys. It appears to go against all cultural norms as well as biology.

My arm chair theory is that these women become so entrenched in the school and it's social scene and hierarchy that they insert themselves into it and see these teen boys as "desirable". If it was just sex any one of these women could go to any bar and go home with their choice of grown men.

It's just weird.

These women may be something close to 1 in a million (at least one in many thousands). One of thousands/millions of people will have some really odd attractions. It doesn't really have to have much to do with what's normal.