Should I enjoy confrontation?

I don't mind confrontation, but I look at your situation as you being a nice guy and letting the dude find what he was looking for. I mean, if he was just sitting there not doing anything, that would be different. Sounds like he was trying to find something, and 20-30 seconds is a reasonable amount of time (maybe?).

I probably would have immediately said something and then felt bad about it afterwards.

just carry some pepperspray with you that will give you more confidence.. you dont even have to let your dad for example know that you have the pepperspray because you probably wont have to use it, but its a nice confidence boost to know that you have it just in case.. if guy was a big bodybuilder and you said "hey move this piece of shiet car outta the way before i get mad brah!" he might just move it because he too doesnt like confrontation and then you look like a badass in front of everyone.. but if he turns out to be the confrontational type and tries to fight you then you can just pepperspray him and drive away laughing, still better than getting your ass beat imo.

So should I have said something? Or is this how interactions usually are when you're trying to get into your car, but someone's passenger door is blocking yours?

In truth, he was there before me because he had his passenger door out and was actively looking for something.

But that doesn't mean I should say: "Hi, can you move your door please?"

I don't like saying sir or ma'am in any situation other than when I am in a work environment.

mellow dude wrote:

So should I have said something? Or is this how interactions usually are when you're trying to get into your car, but someone's passenger door is blocking yours?

In truth, he was there before me because he had his passenger door out and was actively looking for something.

But that doesn't mean I should say: "Hi, can you move your door please?"

I don't like saying sir or ma'am in any situation other than when I am in a work environment.

you should had just said "excuse me" and knocked on his window or somethin. that probably would had been enough without starting a fight.

Move to Florida. Then next time this happens just shoot the person.

You don't want to be a rhino, but you don't want to be an insect either.

I would have said, "excuse me, bro, I don't mean to be rude, but I just want to get in my car right quick." That way, you're being forward, but not aggressive. You're showing strength in a casual manner.

Personal responsibility is a lost cause at least here in the NJ area. They'll be in a wrong and somehow it will be your fault. I do just as you do, try to avoid confrontation, because the slightest contact amongst strangers now results in some hyper-realistic sense that their safety is in danger. I miss the days of just 5 years ago when you could talk to just about anybody and there was a bit of a mutual understanding amongst most people. Yes, somehow smartphones are to blame for this.

Just a typical LetsRunner. Don't feel bad, you're among your equals here.

A long time ago I had a similar incident in the locker room in a gym in London, except the black dude was clearly doing it on purpose, probably because I was white and he was a racist. He was getting dressed after his workout and I wanted to get into my locker which was next to his, but couldn't because he had the door to his open so wide blocking it. I asked him politely if he minded if I got into my locker and he barked at me to 'wait'. So I just swung his door and opened mine to which he very aggressively swung it back causing it to hit my wrist sharply. Had to unload on the twat and knocked him stupid, but it got me banned from the gym.

If you think you can whip whoever ya do what ya want, if ya don't think ya can then you keep your mouth shut. It really is just that simple.

Obviously women and kids don't count, there ya just stand aside and be cool.