No. But it is for sure a sign of immaturity in a 32 year old to still care what people think about his private life.
Or as a woman I know recently told me; before the internet you had to find someone within a 50 mile radius to love - now the whole world kan disappoint you...
yes it is. you may want to see a doctor to have your testosterone levels checked out.
It is the norm in many areas especially Japan. MGTOW is the rational response to feminism and unfair divorce process for men. I would get a vasectomy and be a bachelor until you meet a nice girl that also makes good money that you really like that also doesn't want kids.
Keep your own counsel. Dig deep.
Either you have a plan, or someone else will gladly step in and have a plan for you.
Not wanting kids sounds normal to me (I have none, so I'm also considered weird)
Getting married is a social norming pressure as well. Totally strange when you think about. Why does a contract / the govt need to get involved in this?
If you want a life partner, go get one. Not sure if this post is about having 5-10 year relationships vs marriage vs one (or two, heh, maybe ) lifetime quasi marriages or not.
But marriage is more of a penalty scenario for men, and kids are a fairly personal thing.
If you're doing really well--- or really not well--- marriage doesn't make a ton of sense. For those in the middle it probably does tho
It is considered weird to be worrying if it is considered weird to have no interest in a wife and kids at age 32+
Blacks are awesome wrote:
I am turning 33 in a few weeks, and I always seem to get weird looks or judgemental comments when people find out that I have never been in a serious relationship and have no interest in a wife and kids. Single people are a rarity in my workplace (I'm an IT guy for a local government).
I live in a suburb of a city that is considered to be filled with coastal liberal elites. Definitely not flyover country or the Bible Belt.
So I'm just wondering, how common/uncommon is my lifestyle? Is it really that odd to be single in your early 30s with no interest in finding a long term partner?
When was the last time you had sex?
(with another person, who is female)
32...32?
How can anybody be that young?
When I was 28 I enjoyed dating, but had no interest in being married, and even less desire to have kids. By 31 I was happily married. I'm now a 40 year old, and have 3 kids. Sometimes I miss my old lifestyle, but I have no regrets on my "life decisions."
I don't think it's weird at all to not wish for those things. It's possible you meet someone who changes your trajectory, or you'll be a lifelong bachelor. Wife, kids, house in the burbs can be great, but it's not for everyone!
Blacks are awesome wrote:
I am turning 33 in a few weeks, and I always seem to get weird looks or judgemental comments when people find out that I have never been in a serious relationship and have no interest in a wife and kids. Single people are a rarity in my workplace (I'm an IT guy for a local government).
I live in a suburb of a city that is considered to be filled with coastal liberal elites. Definitely not flyover country or the Bible Belt.
So I'm just wondering, how common/uncommon is my lifestyle? Is it really that odd to be single in your early 30s with no interest in finding a long term partner?
How much porn do you watch?
And what is your favorite category?
has to be asked wrote:
When was the last time you had sex?
(with another person, who is female)
I don't remember, it was too long ago.
Nick Willis's browsing history wrote:
How much porn do you watch?
4-5 hours a day on weekdays, 10+ hours a day on weekends
And what is your favorite category?
Bondage.
I'm a couple of years younger (30), but I get absolutely no flack for being a single guy who is not/has no desire to marry. It may be that i'm still in grad school where there are many others my age in the same boat, whereas you're in the working world and the expectation is for you to have settled down now that you're financially stable.
I do, though, have a lot of sex with many women, and I've been in many long-term relationships. I still couldn't care less about marrying, and at this point I don't want kids (although I'm sure that may change in the next 10 years). If the perfect women comes along, who knows what will happen.
More than half of all US adults are single. Out of the men who do get married, the average age of first-time marriage is 33+ in Germany, Norway, Sweden, Iceland, Spain, Denmark, and a few other European countries.
So no, it is not weird. It's closer to the other way around - a 32 year old married guy is likely to be outnumbered by his non-married 32 year old peers.
Blacks are awesome wrote:
I am turning 33 in a few weeks, and I always seem to get weird looks or judgemental comments when people find out that I have never been in a serious relationship and have no interest in a wife and kids. Single people are a rarity in my workplace (I'm an IT guy for a local government).
I live in a suburb of a city that is considered to be filled with coastal liberal elites. Definitely not flyover country or the Bible Belt.
So I'm just wondering, how common/uncommon is my lifestyle? Is it really that odd to be single in your early 30s with no interest in finding a long term partner?
Dude, I'm in my late 30s, dated a lot, but only had two serious relationships (1st in my early 20s, only lasted 3 years; 2nd in my late 20s-early 30s, lasted 5 years) and have never wanted marriage or kids. For what it's worth, in the first relationship, she wanted marriage & kids and in the second she didn't. I haven't dated much since the LTR ended, but I haven't been looking either. If you want a relationship, go out and get one. If not, stop posting on anonymous message boards asking strangers to validate your life.
Only you can validate yourself and your decisions; stop seeking approval from people you don't know and don't care about.
How's your running coming?
Zev wrote:
Blacks are awesome wrote:
I am turning 33 in a few weeks, and I always seem to get weird looks or judgemental comments when people find out that I have never been in a serious relationship and have no interest in a wife and kids. Single people are a rarity in my workplace (I'm an IT guy for a local government).
I live in a suburb of a city that is considered to be filled with coastal liberal elites. Definitely not flyover country or the Bible Belt.
So I'm just wondering, how common/uncommon is my lifestyle? Is it really that odd to be single in your early 30s with no interest in finding a long term partner?
How's your running coming?
Pretty good, actually. Although I have many other interests now (skiing, landscape photography, mountain biking, recreational flying, various video games, and a few other hobbies), running is the only one I do competitively, and my 5K times now are a bit faster than my HS PRs. If I had a wife and kids, I'd probably be struggling to break 20.
Blacks are awesome wrote:
I am turning 33 in a few weeks, and I always seem to get weird looks or judgemental comments when people find out that I have never been in a serious relationship and have no interest in a wife and kids. Single people are a rarity in my workplace (I'm an IT guy for a local government).
I live in a suburb of a city that is considered to be filled with coastal liberal elites. Definitely not flyover country or the Bible Belt.
So I'm just wondering, how common/uncommon is my lifestyle? Is it really that odd to be single in your early 30s with no interest in finding a long term partner?
Not weird. You are probably very selfish though. Do some volunteering or things for people besides yourself. May change your approach in relationships.
Blacks are awesome wrote:
Zev wrote:
How's your running coming?
Pretty good, actually. Although I have many other interests now (skiing, landscape photography, mountain biking, recreational flying, various video games, and a few other hobbies), running is the only one I do competitively, and my 5K times now are a bit faster than my HS PRs. If I had a wife and kids, I'd probably be struggling to break 20.
Pretty cool, at 33 you are getting PRs in the 5K.
I bet when you are in your 50's you will really treasure these 5K PRs!
You have found the true meaning of life.
Sit a wrote:
Not wanting kids sounds normal to me (I have none, so I'm also considered weird)
Getting married is a social norming pressure as well. Totally strange when you think about. Why does a contract / the govt need to get involved in this?
If you want a life partner, go get one. Not sure if this post is about having 5-10 year relationships vs marriage vs one (or two, heh, maybe ) lifetime quasi marriages or not.
But marriage is more of a penalty scenario for men, and kids are a fairly personal thing.
If you're doing really well--- or really not well--- marriage doesn't make a ton of sense. For those in the middle it probably does tho
Look, there will always be a certain percentage of weirdos and losers like you and the OP. Natural selection I guess.
You dodged a bullet, the #metoo movement is trying to turn every man into a rapist
Assuming the poster is male then keep in mind that the males are rarely selective to begin with. False expectations pushed by social media are a millennial woman thing for 100% of the time from what I see. A hole is a hole.