Question for the guys about dating etiquette

five pages for a troll thread is pretty good.

pretending to be female is one the keys to success

xc chick wrote:

Ugh too late I already did.

lol

You guys are all seriously giving me conflicting advice...

A close friend who is female thinks that any man who offers to pay for a drink is revealing himself to be insufficiently feminist to date. Doesn’t sound like you’re that zealous about the question. Still, the kernel of that idea is that if a man has weird gendered beliefs about payong, it probably goes deeper.

I suggest you offer to split, if he is offended, he’s probably a tool.

xc chick wrote:

Ugh too late I already did.

You're looking a bit desperate on this troll job now.

Depends on if you put out.

xc chick wrote:

You guys are all seriously giving me conflicting advice...

what else did you expect?

xc chick wrote:

Hi everyone, I have a question about dating etiquette. I went on a date with this guy and it went well. The next day, he texted to ask if I wanted to go to this show. I said sure, sounds like fun and we could also see some other things. He replied and said that was great and he bought us two tickets.

Question: Should I ask him if he wants to split the cost of the tickets? I will of course thank him but I'm not sure what the etiquette is here. I am happy to pay my share but I also don't want him to get offended for asking to split this (each ticket is about $20).

The above question is no big deal. It should still be his treat but offering to pay by text is no biggie either. This sounds like you went on your first date with him and then you're getting asked to go to a show. If this is the case, for me, that seems a little fast to be getting involved on a day-to-day basis with someone you just started going out with. However, it could be just a really good show and a matter of timing. I'd say the better question about dating etiquette is how you both conduct yourselves the evening of the show. There's no sense in getting involved in something you'd even remotely regret the morning after and adding yourself to the list of the now-all-too-familiar stories online. Want to live a life with no regrets? Then have fun, but be smart...that's the only way to accomplish that lofty goal.

LLLOOL!!! F^^ yheah! OP try what that girl did in the pic. Bet that dude has no balls and will be scared off anyway if you did.

xc chick wrote:

:/ I know these are dumb questions but I thought there would be some sympathy for social awkwardness here of all places

Haha! Well played. Not dumb questions! Some silly responses, though. I don't know how far down the road you are with this at this point, but if he bought tickets and asked you, I wouldn't worry at all. Were it me, I wouldn't expect any contribution...

bluenope wrote:

No, it is his treat. If it goes well, thank him and say "the next time is on me"

/\ This. And there is no reason to read any of the other responses. I am a guy and would be happy to buy two $20 tickets for a date if I like you. That is what he did, don't complicate it for either of you.

I posted about not reading the other responses before I noticed that there were 5 pages of responses.

The OP posted 28 times in this thread. I am glad to see that there are also female geeks in running.

I mean, seriously, the first response was spot-on and all you needed. He is a man, he went on a date with you and he is just happy that you answer his calls when he makes them. You have a lot to learn.

Update: I asked if he preferred venmo or in person/cash, he said either is fine but here's my venmo. We live in a fairly big city but the show is a bit out of town so he said he could rent a car unless I had one (I don't because public transport isn't bad here).

I'm thinking I'll say that works well and that I don't have a car. Then at the date itself, I'll pay for dinner or something.

Yes I should have taken it right there and then just try to pay for dinner or something instead of going into all this... oh well.

From a guy's point of view, it's just chivalrous to pay for the date. But if the guy is paying every time, then that's not cool in my book. Every once and a while volunteer to split the costs, and don't be afraid to take him out on a date too and then you can pay for that one. Guys usually are the ones that come up with date ideas, so its nice to be surprised every once a while.

xc chick wrote:

Yes I should have taken it

the only true thing you've uttered here.