Wife says I should gladly let her eat food off my plate without asking first. Is she right?

My four year old daughter even knows enough to ask for a bite of my dessert. And of course I share with her. It would be different if my four year old just came up and took it. She has manners.

The problem is the entitled attitude the OP's wife (and many other wives) displays. Taking without asking, especially when she knows it is a sore spot.

All He Does Is Win wrote:Can you not read?

It's not the sharing but taking something without asking is rude. Were you not taught manners as kids?

Yes I can read very well. The OP doesn't like his wife very much, is what I've inferred. He's letting his wife's habit get under his skin. He doesn't have to let it annoy him. He can look at it as a sign of intimacy, and enjoy it.

Glass half full, or glass half empty? Personally, I try to see the world through the half full lens, and that has served my mental health fairly well.

manomanoman wrote:

All He Does Is Win wrote:Can you not read?

It's not the sharing but taking something without asking is rude. Were you not taught manners as kids?

Yes I can read very well. The OP doesn't like his wife very much, is what I've inferred. He's letting his wife's habit get under his skin. He doesn't have to let it annoy him. He can look at it as a sign of intimacy, and enjoy it.

Glass half full, or glass half empty? Personally, I try to see the world through the half full lens, and that has served my mental health fairly well.

'My wife punches me in the face every morning'.

'If your wife is happy you should be happy'.

manomanoman wrote:

Reading this thread, it struck me that a whole lot of you must not really like your wives very much. ..

Once you've been married for at least 15 years and have had kids, I think this goes without saying. Women over the age of 35 get a little crazy. That's why they invented man caves and Internet porn.

dirty frank wrote:

I don't blame you. If she asked, sure, no problem. But to just reach over and grab is rude. I couldn't careless if someone samples. But for Christ sake, at least be polite and ask.

Not until I provide ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT, preferably in both oral AND written form, attained EVERY SINGLE TIME, should my wife reach over and grab.

#nomeansno #yesmeansnoifnotenthusiastic

All He Does Is Win wrote:'My wife punches me in the face every morning'.

The only selfish one is the wife. Like sharing is one thing and something many do because it's smiled upon, but to take something like food without asking is messed up. Doesn't matter if a family member does it. You cannot just take food off your husband's plate and expect them to be ok with it. It's like taking candy from a baby who little do you know could do something irrational (no pun intended).

Nope, the purpose of a man is to provide for his wife. His food should be open to his wife without asking. His job is make sure his wife is well fed. Even if that means he goes to bed hungry. If she wants to take his entire plate without asking, he should be happy to feed her and go to bed hungry or get more food.

Old thread is old. In any case, it represents a "what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine" mentality that many women exhibit in a relationship. If she'd be upset with you eating off of her plate, picking up the coffee tab because you left your wallet at home, or covering some kind of unexpected expense you ran into off of her income, then the relationship is doomed to remain or end in nothing but misery.

Entitled to the core. Who does she think she is? First "she'll reach over the table with her fork and snag a hunk of food off my plate" and then have the audicity to make you the bad guy because you deem what she did wrong? Who does that? She's not a good spouse.

If that happens, just start eating off her plate.

Quit being so reactive. Let's see where this thing is headed. Run with it!

Parody?

And that's how husbands turn to monsters and how divorces come out to play

This isn't a problem, it's a sign of a playful healthy marriage.

Not everyone sees it like that buddy. No one's perfect

Yeah!

And who's to say you can't shove her fork away from your entrée with your fork? Or quickly jabbing whatever she's going for on your plate before she can skewer it? And start eating her desert before she's even had a bite?

Who did she marry, anyways? Some Casper Milk-toast?

Grow a pair.

This post is 6 years old. OP is divorced and eating his meals in peace.

We're so bored that we're turning to 6 year old threads and pretending that they're current.

Fair enough