When to start dating after a divorce?

Totally agree. Your just trading a problem you know for a problem you don't know. And your also trading your kids a few days a week for someone else's kids.

My marriage is not so great but I wouldn't trade a new woman for my children.

plog wrote:

Serious advice that since its on LetsRun won't be considered serious:

You should start dating after you've banged through at least 2 cheer leading squads of chicks.

Again, totally serious. If you are asking about when its time to start dating, you are not ready to date. Go have fun.

He's dead right.

I got divorced at age 36, and spent the first few months banging like a half dozen different 19-22 year olds. They're nice and limber, and don't know any better than to not do all the awful stuff you ask them for, and they're a lot easier to get rid of when you're tired of them.

Then I started dating psychos again, because stick with what you know, right?

Just for contrast, my ex started dating about 3-4 months before she told me we were getting divorced.

Good luck with everything.

Divorcée wrote:

008 wrote:

Focus on a separation agreement, get it done quickly and cheaply, without lawyers if possible. Once you have that in place it is time to enjoy life again.

No kidding! They try to squeeze every ounce of blood out of you, in this case dollars. I think I went into the wrong profession....lol

Thanks everyone, I knew I could count on you guys. Btw, I'm female. Hence my name...."divorcée"....😊

Nooway's comments still apply.

Divorcée wrote:

I recently went to a friend's wedding (second marriage and had an awesome time) and it got me thinking, when did you start dating after a divorce...right away? Before or after or never? Just curious. No need to be mean or trolling. My feelings are sensitive right now. Thanks LetsRun.

Who did you go to the wedding with? Or did you go solo?

Solo.

To the guy who called the woman "whore" what do you call the man who left his family for another woman? Manwhore?...🙄 At this point you have to move on, you might not like what happened to you but I'm confident my life will be better, no need to be bitter.

To the guy who called the woman "whore" what do you call the man who left his family for another woman? Manwhore?...🙄

That would be a douchebag.

Divorcée wrote:

I recently went to a friend's wedding (second marriage and had an awesome time) and it got me thinking, when did you start dating after a divorce...right away? Before or after or never? Just curious. No need to be mean or trolling. My feelings are sensitive right now. Thanks LetsRun.

The answer to this question is going to vary a lot from person to person depending on the situation. I recently started dating even though my (legal) divorce is not complete, and I did so without any hesitation whatsoever. My marriage ended last Labor day in the context of events that made it impossible for me to ever trust my wife again. Prior to this I had struggled for several years working a demanding job, serving as primary homemaker and parent to our young son, and having to deal with her erratic and damaging behaviors.

The only reason our divorce is not complete has been her failure to respond to my reasonable settlement proposal. She will have to, though, because I only agreed to pay the rent on her new apartment for one year.

I am more than ready to move on with my life.

Divorcée wrote:

I recently went to a friend's wedding (second marriage and had an awesome time) and it got me thinking, when did you start dating after a divorce...right away? Before or after or never? Just curious. No need to be mean or trolling. My feelings are sensitive right now. Thanks LetsRun.

Pics?

I was actually hoping she might be interested in me but wanted to query the LRC community to see how inappropriate it would be to date someone who is not yet divorced.

Rather than be a big fat pu$$y, just wait till it ever gets hard again and date the first chick or dude who'll go out with you.

Pertainstome wrote:

I was actually hoping she might be interested in me but wanted to query the LRC community to see how inappropriate it would be to date someone who is not yet divorced.

Do I know you? Mine took me over a year to finalize. I wanted to moved on after 8 months of him filing because he had certainly moved on with his new girlfriend. The attorneys were the ones who made it difficult. Right after we both signed the final paper and thought it would go through the judge without problems our attorneys said the judge wasn't satisfied with the way some of the items were not written correctly, really? Both thought it was BS. Anyway, it took another couple weeks to be recorded.

With that said, I get your concern about dating someone if their divorce is not final.

ANaKonDA wrote:

No you dumb f$$3. Women cheat a) MORE and b) BETTER than men. I know because I'm the expert here. I've mastered dozens of wives over the years and only very few hubs ever believed or discovered she was stepping out. Men on the other hand were dumba$$es about how they handle their extras and almost always get found out by the ladies. The social reporting bias and usual princess ideologies contradict factual reality, as usual.

Wow...you're one slick dude 😨

However long it takes you to run a 5k

sbeefyk1 wrote:

I would choose to never date. It's a waste of time and all women aren't worth it. The good ones choose losers to "fix" at a young age and end up divorced in their 40s when their plan fails. By then they are all used up, have children, and useless to a man.

Don't settle for that life. Stay single, focus on science, and do something productive with your life.

Projecting much?

Can't help you. I'm a newlywed not a divorcee and everything I do is funky like Lee Dorsey.

Pertainstome wrote:

I was actually hoping she might be interested in me but wanted to query the LRC community to see how inappropriate it would be to date someone who is not yet divorced.

Pics?

Divorcée wrote:

Pertainstome wrote:

I was actually hoping she might be interested in me but wanted to query the LRC community to see how inappropriate it would be to date someone who is not yet divorced.

Do I know you? Mine took me over a year to finalize. I wanted to moved on after 8 months of him filing because he had certainly moved on with his new girlfriend. The attorneys were the ones who made it difficult. Right after we both signed the final paper and thought it would go through the judge without problems our attorneys said the judge wasn't satisfied with the way some of the items were not written correctly, really? Both thought it was BS. Anyway, it took another couple weeks to be recorded.

With that said, I get your concern about dating someone if their divorce is not final.

OP, at the risk of repetition, who did you go to the wedding with?

OP, get out there! BTW, men love women who take it in the butt and are willing to do ATM. Just saying...

If you scroll up I already answered. It was a very small wedding and I went solo.