Breaking up with live in girlfriend

MoreFire wrote:

Yet another example of why co-habitation prior to marriage is a bad idea. Look at the stats. Evidence based research suggests this doesn't bode well for your next relationship either.

Kings never move in with their girlfriends.

The stats are not comparing apples to apples -- people who choose to move in before marriage and people who don't are self-selecting groups.

Wow, what a weenie you are. Unless she is emotionally unstable to the point where you fear for your safety, you need to have this conversation face to face. This isn't some girl you dated a couple times and it didn't work out, or whatever.

If you are that concerned about having to crash on someone's couch for a few days, by all means line up housing.

MoreFire wrote:

Yet another example of why co-habitation prior to marriage is a bad idea. Look at the stats. Evidence based research suggests this doesn't bode well for your next relationship either.

Kings never move in with their girlfriends.

Since you neglected to cite any actual statistics I had to do so for myself. And I ended finding an article citing a peer-reviewed study that said you're wrong....awkward

Take this advice from an older and wiser person.

I have seen even the most rational woman go insane during a break up. She may accuse you of abusing her etc. So do what it takes to protect yourself.

So I suggest getting another place to live and getting your stuff moved out. Break up in a public place, have a witness etc. Do you have any joint bank accounts or credit cards?

You have tremendous down side if she makes a false accusation.

Becareful

MoreFire wrote:

Yet another example of why co-habitation prior to marriage is a bad idea. Look at the stats. Evidence based research suggests this doesn't bode well for your next relationship either.

Yeah it's better to just get married, and end up in a really bad relationship that sucks big time, forever and ever.

LBM wrote:

My thoughts are to secure a new living arrangement over the next week or so ... revealing the breakup upon her return.

That sounds like an okay plan to me.

Be sure to remain reasonable and amicable throughout the whole process.

Definitely do NOT discuss this with her while she's on her trip.

Wait until she is back, meet and talk with her then.

Don't move in with a woman unless you are both pretty sure you want it to go really long term. My wife and I thought we wanted to get married and we agreed to live together first, in my house. She paid me a fair market price to share the space, which I applied to the mortgage payments.

Option 1: Is there a way to take her name off the lease and add yours?

You won't even need to find a new place then. Put her sh!t into a truck. Or you can ship it to her parents house

Option 2: Get like...really into crossfit

Not sure if anyone mentioned this, but you should just ghost her.

she leaves on her trip, and ten minutes later the moving van pulls up and you are gone. You're a-hole anyway, so she probably will be happy there is no drama.

I can't believe that this thread made it to Page 3 without the LRC requisite:

"The post is worthless without pics."

There. You're welcome.

Do it. Now. I want to start screwing her and you need to be out of the picture for that to happen.

You need to go into the reasons or keep the whole story to your self.

I moved out and then broke up with my girlfriend August 2016. She asked me to meet her to give me a few items I left and reeled me back in. All of the good parts of the relationship were back and I was interested in moving forward with her. Then she started dating another guy and I caught her lying about it. I had to deal with rejection and it was horrible.

Move out and maybe leave a note. Do not meet up with her. In the end you don't owe each other anything and explaining your thoughts are unnecessary. Closure is a myth and extremely regressive.

Here's a thought experiment. If you were living with a woman you loved and you came home from your vacation to find she'd abruptly moved out without so much as a word, how would you feel?

This doesn't cover situations where there is DV/abuse involved, obviously

Get some photos of her father. Superimpose his face on the bodies of men in hard-core gay porn magazines. Make sure she finds them.

Start talking about Mike Pence. All the time. Talk about how smart he is. How he seems readily nice. Mention that he has kind eyes. That he seems really fit for a man of his age. He should be the last thing you talk about when you go to sleep and the first thing you say to her in the morning. Cut his photo out of every newspaper and magazine - leave them around the house. Only talk to her friends and family about Mike Pence. Focus all of your conversations with them on his smile and his lips. Repeatedly ask your girlfriend if Mike Pence should grow his hair out.

Ask her if she thinks Mike Pence has soft lips. Let her know that you would give her a pass with Mike Pence. Make it clear that you wouldn't mind watching her and Mike Pence. Ask if she would mind if you taped their session. Or if she would be cool if you joined the action. Ask if she would be uncomfortable if you and Mike Pence spent some private time together. Suggest that you would be open to her wearing a sharp Mike Pence style suit and a close-cropped grey wig the next time you were intimate with each other.

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MoreFire wrote:

Yet another example of why co-habitation prior to marriage is a bad idea. Look at the stats. Evidence based research suggests this doesn't bode well for your next relationship either.

Yeah it's better to just get married, and end up in a really bad relationship that sucks big time, forever and ever.

Most people who move in together before marriage are just "testing the waters". This means they openly admit that if things don't go as planned or if someone better comes along then they may just "upgrade" and move on.

This is a consumer mentality that will not produce happy and successful relationships. This same mentality can be found in some marriages as well, but it can be found in almost all live-in relationships. This is a death sentence in the long run for the relationship.

MoreFire wrote:

Kings never move in with their girlfriends.

Well he's a prince (eventually will be King), but William lived with Kate before they got married.

BTW I hate the monarch and this post made me feel icky.