Unrecognized wrote:
My wife is great and she has put up with a lot of my BS.
It is her mother that really annoys me. Talks about politics and world events but just makes shit up. Serial liar.
Ugh, sorry bro. I am going to be in a similar situation soon I fear but mine might be a bit worse. My Mother in law AND Father in law may have to move in with us shortly. Plus, we have small kids.
They are just totally financially irresponsible, it's crazy. They've been retired for years now--retiring even when they had no retirement savings or least insufficient funds given the choices they make....brilliant! On top of this, despite both of them getting decent--not huge mind you but decent--inheritances from their respective parents very late in life (including one inheritance of ~300k AFTER they retired) they are a few months away from declaring personal bankruptcy.
It's not like they helped their kids out with college or anything like that either. Since retiring, they have traveled to Europe, Asia, and South America. They have taken my sister in laws kids on vacations to Disneyworld and other expensive places. We have refused to go on vacation with them as my wife (bless her soul) has tried numerous times to get them to face their financial reality. But, my mother in law refuses--gets very passive aggressive / cries, etc.--to understand she is not wealthy and is being totally irresponsible.
On top of all of this, my in laws are super religious and preachy...and we totally disagree on politics (they are big Trump supporters).
At the end of the day, they are family and we'll have to help them out but it's really hard to deal with people like this. People who see facts as they want to see them and that are totally out of touch with reality. Fortunately, my parents have their $hit together financially and my wife and I do as well--my parents also don't have ridiculous religious and political beliefs. But, if half the country is like my in laws God help us all.
So, while I feel your pain, I have to say you're doing the right thing in helping your mother in law. Your wife sounds like a good lady. It's important to help family--even if they are annoying, mouth breathers with no understanding of economics and finance.